As a guy ~

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No one ever came up with an official definition of love that fully describes it so you can relax, there's no way we're as wrong as we think we are about this.

It's easy to feel hopeless when things aren't going right. Just because you're sad now, doesn't mean you'll always be sad. Can you remember the last time you were really happy?

I'm thinking there's a greater issue at hand than just any of our ASD diagnoses. We need to confront everyone's prejudice at the same time we're making efforts to be more relatable.

I love people without us necessarily understanding each other. I think we need to make more time in our lives for relaxed discussions about ourselves & our similarities to NTs.

When I was a a kid, before I felt romantic feelings and before I found out I’m subhuman and no woman will every date me or see me romanticly

I felt "romantic" feelings even as a 5-year-old.

Sly. You are a Homo sapiens.

Most people see me as subhuman as I didn’t live up to societies demands. I’m not middle class, I don’t make good money, I can’t own a car, I’m not a real man I’m not dating material. No woman sees me romantically or would even consider dating me non less wasting their time talking to me.

I didn’t like females until I was 11/12.
If you had romantic and sexual feelings or attraction at 5 that’s not normal, most don’t until their start going through puberty
I like most 5 year olds saw women as the enemy and didn’t want their cuties lol

Last edited by sly279 on 02 Apr 2019, 6:58 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I had a crush on a girl when I was five. It was very romantic! She could do the splits. (It wasn't sexual).
I got run over by a bike-a-thon trying to cross a busy road to see her.

Romantic feelings can happen at different levels at different ages.

I suppose I have some kind of chance to stay closer to someone I really care for. I might become roommates with her brother & a friend of ours. Just having them around at all means a lot more people in my life.

The thought of opening up again socially drives me bonkers. I think I need to be more open about autism problems with all my friends & seek greater understanding as my first priority. We don't always get along perfectly but I would be a serious mess without them. I can't just hug everything out, we need to really talk & I need to make a relaxing place for us to do so.

For now I can only focus on work & keeping my job past the 1 year mark. Work is going OK for me but my back is against the wall on a code project I've been assigned. At least I've clarified some of it for my bosses.

I've built a software engineering resume from total scratch, I'm not convinced by anyone, not even my closest friends, that I can't do this & that, particularly in my love life. I know plenty of things most guys haven't grasped in their whole life. I'm a village shaman for 120,000 people.

What we have here is a failure to communicate, between the sexes that is. I want to listen more but that means I have to get people talking.

I've been a hopeless romantic since I was 6 or 7. It's OK by me.

I had a crush in kindergarten, her name was Kimberly.

As a lifelong nerd, I've received so much hostility towards my every romantic inclination that I've almost totally withdrawn.

I really hope I can help my friends & myself get past stereotyping each other.

guess what?


i'm still f*****g miserable.


and i'm still not over that girl.

you know the one.

same.

You're definitely not subhuman.

Feelings of inadequacy arise when you're not following your heart.

If you are pursuing the path that will bring you inner peace, something you are truly passionate about, you will attract the right woman.

But I know it's hard. Sometimes it's better to just hide away for a little while until those feelings pass. (They will).

Mine come from the fact nearly every woman I’ve met or tried to date says I’m not good enough to date or not a real man. There’s men and women, if I’m not a real man, then I’m must not be human and and so subhuman. It certainly goes with how they treat me. Not acknowledging me, almost knocking me over and saying nothing etc.

Good income and status is what attracts most women and I don’t have either.

The suggestion you are not a real man is sexist and a social construct. You are as human as the rest of us sly and you are just as manly as the next man. We may not agree politically, but I think you are a great guy with a huge heart that has plenty to offer someone that is compatible with you. The biggest problem I see is your tendency to becoming a self fulfilling prophecy.