Autistic/Aspergian Women and Abortions
Word! People don't talk about this stuff enough.
I had gestational diabetes. Like many others who had it, I now have diabetes.
I never had a cavity in the 36 years before my pregnancy. Can't count how many I've had since then.
I suffered from horrendous depression both during and after pregnancy. I was also nauseated for the ENTIRE NINE MONTHS. This is far more common than people know.
I had pre-eclampsia, a life-threatening condition, during labor. And I've got a hideous c-section scar.
None of this is my child's fault, and he was very much wanted. But think about how someone might feel, puking their guts out for nine months straight, for the sake of a baby they didn't want and were forced to have.
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Word! People don't talk about this stuff enough.
I had gestational diabetes. Like many others who had it, I now have diabetes.
I never had a cavity in the 36 years before my pregnancy. Can't count how many I've had since then.
I suffered from horrendous depression both during and after pregnancy. I was also nauseated for the ENTIRE NINE MONTHS. This is far more common than people know.
I had pre-eclampsia, a life-threatening condition, during labor. And I've got a hideous c-section scar.
None of this is my child's fault, and he was very much wanted. But think about how someone might feel, puking their guts out for nine months straight, for the sake of a baby they didn't want and were forced to have.
They should not have had secks in the first place then.
I hate the abortion debate. It's boring- everything that can be said about it has been said, but people just keep screaming away, unaware that nobody who already has a strong opinion is going to change their mind. Also, I hate how the issue is used to manipulate people into voting for politicians who oppress sexual minorities.
That said, there are two ways I could get pregnant given my orientation: planned pregnancy and rape. Nobody, of course, would abort a planned fetus unless their life was in danger or the fetus had a hideous and deadly condition such as anencephaly. If I were raped, though, I think I would abort to avoid propagating my rapist's genes. Rapists don't deserve an evolutionary advantage. My motivations are scientific; I guess that's an AS thing.
All of those scenarios are unlikely to come up in my life because I have reduced fertility. Plus, if I ever wanted to start a family, my partner would probably want to conceive and carry the baby because I am a genetic nightmare myself. Butting out now.
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Word! People don't talk about this stuff enough.
I had gestational diabetes. Like many others who had it, I now have diabetes.
I never had a cavity in the 36 years before my pregnancy. Can't count how many I've had since then.
I suffered from horrendous depression both during and after pregnancy. I was also nauseated for the ENTIRE NINE MONTHS. This is far more common than people know.
I had pre-eclampsia, a life-threatening condition, during labor. And I've got a hideous c-section scar.
None of this is my child's fault, and he was very much wanted. But think about how someone might feel, puking their guts out for nine months straight, for the sake of a baby they didn't want and were forced to have.
They should not have had secks in the first place then.
Nonsense - consent to sex is not consent to pregnancy with all its risks. Neither are those things an appropriate 'punishment' for having sex.
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'You're so cold, but you feel alive
Lay your hands on me, one last time' (Breaking Benjamin)
That said, there are two ways I could get pregnant given my orientation: planned pregnancy and rape. Nobody, of course, would abort a planned fetus unless their life was in danger or the fetus had a hideous and deadly condition such as anencephaly. If I were raped, though, I think I would abort to avoid propagating my rapist's genes. Rapists don't deserve an evolutionary advantage. My motivations are scientific; I guess that's an AS thing.
All of those scenarios are unlikely to come up in my life because I have reduced fertility. Plus, if I ever wanted to start a family, my partner would probably want to conceive and carry the baby because I am a genetic nightmare myself. Butting out now.
You're quite right. Someone who would rape another human shouldn't be passing on their genes and potentially creating another human like themselves.
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'You're so cold, but you feel alive
Lay your hands on me, one last time' (Breaking Benjamin)
I don't think raping can be genetically transmitted

But I would definitely abort a child conceived through rape, no doubt about it. I even wonder if it would be possible for a woman to have a normal, healthy attitude towards the pregnancy and the baby or really love the poor thing.
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"Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live" (Oscar Wilde)
I am sorry you are going through this. If you believe you can live with the consequences, then do what you feel you need to do. However, I do believe that just as it takes TWO (as someone mentioned here your ex will HAVE to financially support the child, because after all, he did help create it) to support a child, it should take TWO to determine if such child should live. If you believe the choice is yours and only yours to make, if the father doesn't want to have anything to do with the child, please don't complain. I am a fair person, and I do believe each of us lives with the choices WE make...but don't make a choice and expect someone else to live with your choice...if you want to share the guilt/responsiblity of abortion/parenting, share the decision to abort/let the child live.
Good luck to you.
Good luck to you.
What if he wants the child? No one has the right to force someone to remain pregnant.
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'You're so cold, but you feel alive
Lay your hands on me, one last time' (Breaking Benjamin)
Yup. That's fair.

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'You're so cold, but you feel alive
Lay your hands on me, one last time' (Breaking Benjamin)
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