For gods sake give me some decent neighbours

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I've been fortunate to only ever live in detached houses with good neighbours next door. Well, ok, mostly - until I was a year old we lived in an apartment, and at the house I grew up in at one point a bunch of undercover cops with guns drawn arrested the tenants that were next door for a bit for running a chop shop & stealing cars with their tow trucks. But even they were silent!

Many people I know in apartments/condos have complaints about neighbours.. and the lower the price of housing, the higher the probability of crappy neighbours. Seems a bit odd that poor people wouldn't also appreciate peace and quiet, but, some of them are poor because their neurological makeup doesn't enable them to be peaceful or quiet.. sooo, they're bad neighbours. Sucks for others just trying to live their lives. Some make noise, others complain about every little thing.. nice to avoid all that if at all possible - which is why IF I move, even if I have to move twice, the goal is to rent an entire house and then sublet the remaining space so that *I* control who's there and don't have to live beneath a landlord that might be nosy or crappy and have stupid ideas of how they think they can control how other people live their lives. Of course I want a peaceful home and would be a decent tenant even with a landlord upstairs, it's just a better situation to be the one in control of the whole place.

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I live in Essex.

My boyfriend reckons they'll move soon, but I can't see them moving. It seems they don't work, and it's cheap living here, and they have nobody above them making a noise, and they're lucky to have non-violent neighbours (us) living below who are quite civil to them and don't want to cause trouble no matter how much we hate them. They'll probably stay there til the kid's in college. And they'll probably breed more, so soon there'll be like 3 kids bomping about above us all the time, and you know how much us entitled childless couples aren't allowed to complain about precious little children because "they're just kids" and "they can't help it" and all that s**t. So any noise is unbearable, oh but when there are precious little darlings that sound like a herd of elephants coming through your ceiling, that's an entirely different thing that MUST be tolerated and endured and that you must have "empathy" for them and all that bollocks.

The more I think about that, the more I WILL move. I wish there was a thing with apartments where each block had its own set age group, so that everyone can be satisfied. For example, having some blocks of apartments that are for people that don't have children or aren't planning on having children. I think living below a family is the WORST, because you don't have the right to complain about children's noise so you have no choice but to put up with it. At least with troublesome neighbours who have antisocial behaviour can be dealt with by the landlords. With families you've just got to let live, which can be distressing when you have an ASD, ADHD and anxiety disorder.

Usually homes near the countryside are more expensive, because it counts as luxury. Most people, even some extroverts who like people, would pick a house or apartment in a peaceful area looking out at fields and woods and hearing animals instead of humans if they were given the choice. Usually the cheaper places to live are the "make do" places, such as apartments close together with other apartments that mainly house unemployed people with no respect (NOT saying all unemployed people are disrespectful, I just mean people who choose not to work and are sloppy and inconsiderate).

We live in a semi detached house, our immediate neighbour, who is very, very nice, was quiet for years. Let's call him John.

Then last winter, John started playing very loud music every evening. As I know him, I asked him about it and he said he was going through a very bad time and it helped him cope. So we said he could come round for Sunday lunch anytime if he's lonely. He didn't but he was grateful for the offer. I found out his bad time was because he'd split up with his girlfriend of 5 years or so.

Then she came back into his life recently, about 3 months ago. And last Saturday morning, about 4-5am, John and she had a screaming row, slamming doors, shouting, running into the street. My friend said it was probably drink-fuelled but it seems a bit odd to be drinking at 4am.

So now we're hoping our nice, quiet neighbour won't be doing this on a regular basis.

Such a pity, as the lady before him was nice and quiet too. We'll see.

Yep.....I don't like fighting and screaming at 4 AM, either.

I once lived below a gay couple who threw furniture at each other at all hours of the day. No kidding! Fortunately, that was almost 40 years ago.

It's too bad they got to that point....

That is sad ,, to have to watch and witness the after effects of such situations .

We were pretty worried so we stayed awake to check they didn't start killing each other or something so we'd have to call the police. They've been pretty quiet since but I think they are still alive...

The girlfriend is quite strange, she has never spoken to us and runs indoors if she sees us in the garden. I'm not even sure what her name is, after 5 years! John however, is nice and friendly, and has helped us numerous times e.g. when we had a power cut and he didn't, he let us put our frozen food in his freezer. He also trimmed our hedge for us when my husband's mum died, just so he could do something to make our lives easier.

You're a better neighbor than I

I need my sleep. I have to go to work in the morning. I would have fallen asleep, rather than wait up waiting for them to argue or not argue.

(I am retired....but only from one job).

We didn't have much choice as they were very loud right next to our bedroom and outside. We fell asleep when they went quiet though. But I didn't want to find out the next morning that they'd murdered each other.