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20 Feb 2025, 1:03 am

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There are people who compete as members of a betting ring. You want to avoid those people like the plague. They use others to get ahead. Vile perps.

If this guy is baiting you, ignore his sorry soul. He isn’t worth your time.


I don't want to speak for Jamesy but I don't think he wants to lose his mates because of this one guy. It's possible this guy is jealous because Jamesy is better looking than him and he's insecure and wants to prove he is somehow better. It's just bad luck he has ingratiated himself in Jamesy's friendship volunteer group.



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20 Feb 2025, 2:49 am

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Stargazer99 wrote:
There are people who compete as members of a betting ring. You want to avoid those people like the plague. They use others to get ahead. Vile perps.

If this guy is baiting you, ignore his sorry soul. He isn’t worth your time.


I don't want to speak for Jamesy but I don't think he wants to lose his mates because of this one guy. It's possible this guy is jealous because Jamesy is better looking than him and he's insecure and wants to prove he is somehow better. It's just bad luck he has ingratiated himself in Jamesy's friendship volunteer group.



Well he has known some of my friends a bit longer than I have



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20 Feb 2025, 3:24 am

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Well he has known some of my friends a bit longer than I have


Ah! so it's also a popularity contest!



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20 Feb 2025, 6:03 am

:lol:

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20 Feb 2025, 7:38 am

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Why?



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20 Feb 2025, 8:19 am

I'm enjoying your thread that's all


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20 Feb 2025, 10:28 am

cyberdora wrote:
Stargazer99 wrote:
There are people who compete as members of a betting ring. You want to avoid those people like the plague. They use others to get ahead. Vile perps.

If this guy is baiting you, ignore his sorry soul. He isn’t worth your time.


I don't want to speak for Jamesy but I don't think he wants to lose his mates because of this one guy. It's possible this guy is jealous because Jamesy is better looking than him and he's insecure and wants to prove he is somehow better. It's just bad luck he has ingratiated himself in Jamesy's friendship volunteer group.


What the heck is a ‘friendship volunteer group?’ Real friends don’t need to be paid or coaxed to volunteer for friendship. That’s f-ing sick.



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20 Feb 2025, 10:30 am

Jamesy wrote:
cyberdora wrote:
Stargazer99 wrote:
There are people who compete as members of a betting ring. You want to avoid those people like the plague. They use others to get ahead. Vile perps.

If this guy is baiting you, ignore his sorry soul. He isn’t worth your time.


I don't want to speak for Jamesy but I don't think he wants to lose his mates because of this one guy. It's possible this guy is jealous because Jamesy is better looking than him and he's insecure and wants to prove he is somehow better. It's just bad luck he has ingratiated himself in Jamesy's friendship volunteer group.



Well he has known some of my friends a bit longer than I have


James’s, it sounds like these people are using you. If so, it’s better to leave them and find new friends than to endure a-holes. Life is too short to stay with jerks.



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20 Feb 2025, 4:01 pm

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What the heck is a ‘friendship volunteer group?’ Real friends don’t need to be paid or coaxed to volunteer for friendship. That’s f-ing sick.


Huh? that's not what I meant. Jamesy is part of a group of volunteers who are also his friends. Its among this group the Chinese dude is also a volunteer and part of the aforementioned friendship group.

Many people volunteer because they want to make a difference, help out or contribute to the community/environment etc. But a lot of people also join up to make friends and/or socialise.



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20 Feb 2025, 4:05 pm

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James’s, it sounds like these people are using you. If so, it’s better to leave them and find new friends than to endure a-holes. Life is too short to stay with jerks.


I don't see evidence these friends are using Jamesy?



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20 Feb 2025, 4:45 pm

cyberdora wrote:
Stargazer99 wrote:
What the heck is a ‘friendship volunteer group?’ Real friends don’t need to be paid or coaxed to volunteer for friendship. That’s f-ing sick.


Huh? that's not what I meant. Jamesy is part of a group of volunteers who are also his friends. Its among this group the Chinese dude is also a volunteer and part of the aforementioned friendship group.

Many people volunteer because they want to make a difference, help out or contribute to the community/environment etc. But a lot of people also join up to make friends and/or socialise.


There is a MASSIVE difference between joining others to volunteer for a cause vs “hey, anyone want to volunteer to be this guy/girl’s friend?” Real friends will like you as you are, where you are, without needing to be paid or influenced.



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20 Feb 2025, 4:47 pm

cyberdora wrote:
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James’s, it sounds like these people are using you. If so, it’s better to leave them and find new friends than to endure a-holes. Life is too short to stay with jerks.


I don't see evidence these friends are using Jamesy?


If they are baiting him in any way then they are using him. Also, if I knew that a friend wanted to date someone, I wouldn’t steal or manipulate that person’s relationships. This entire scenario sounds contrived and manipulative.



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20 Feb 2025, 6:43 pm

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There is a MASSIVE difference between joining others to volunteer for a cause vs “hey, anyone want to volunteer to be this guy/girl’s friend?” Real friends will like you as you are, where you are, without needing to be paid or influenced.


I think you're misunderstanding what Jamesy was meaning.

Another way of describing them would be coworkers from volunteering he's friendly with, not people who's volunteer work is being friends with Jamesy.


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20 Feb 2025, 8:32 pm

funeralxempire wrote:
Stargazer99 wrote:
There is a MASSIVE difference between joining others to volunteer for a cause vs “hey, anyone want to volunteer to be this guy/girl’s friend?” Real friends will like you as you are, where you are, without needing to be paid or influenced.


I think you're misunderstanding what Jamesy was meaning.

Another way of describing them would be coworkers from volunteering he's friendly with, not people who's volunteer work is being friends with Jamesy.


Cyberdora wrote: “It's just bad luck he has ingratiated himself in Jamesy's friendship volunteer group.”

Why not just say volunteer group then? What is the purpose of adding the word ‘friendship’ to that sentence?



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21 Feb 2025, 2:03 am

the point is the volunteers become friends if they see each other regularly enough. I think a group of volunteers are going to have more in common in terms of values than co-workers in a paid job.



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21 Feb 2025, 10:35 am

Hi Jamsey:

I thought about something else. Competetive people will also get close to anyone they feel threatened by make it sound like they want to be your friend. When in reality, they don't have your best interest at heart and want to know everything about you. People like this often enjoy to see you struggle and will most likely brag about how they are getting ahead.