Anything you abhor more than a cocktail party?

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How much do you abhor cocktail parties?
Love'em, I'm a mingling success 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
Please let me die before 61%  61%  [ 33 ]
I'm not so bad at it, actually 22%  22%  [ 12 ]
Other or just enjoy voting or want to see results or Greentea rocks 17%  17%  [ 9 ]
Total votes : 54

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01 Jun 2009, 11:00 am

I mean, a cocktail party where being seen mingling successfully is crucial for your business/job/whatever and be seen as a loner can be a career downfall or something.

I believe cocktail parties are the most difficult thing for an Aspie to deal with, learn to survive in. The amount and nonverbality of the moves expected from a person and carried out by the others is so that it makes cocktail parties an exercise in NTness AND NOTHING MORE.

In fact, specialists should just watch you at a cocktail party to diagnose you, it should be enough.

I recommend THIS thread, and my post in it.


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01 Jun 2009, 12:02 pm

If its a party where you dont care about the people then that is easy (half the time).... you can let go in those party times, actually to tell ya the truth I am pretty good at parties where I know I will never see the people again (I am usually considered eccentric and interesting - literal comments)

....but if your job depended on, heck I could get away with it in an office workers environment easy (pretty socially dumb people anyway so I will and have been interesting), but the "blue collar" crowd its not easy to get away with, thier is a real hierarchy and tructure to interpersonal partying... most "real people's" parties the people are socially smart and can see right through you... ie each human beings first goal is to be on even slate with each other, you act a dumb arse, not considering an overall atmosphere than your f'ed, and will be shun so fast you will be hiing in the corner in under a minute (or chain smoking)


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01 Jun 2009, 12:03 pm

Never been to one, so I wouldn't know.



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01 Jun 2009, 12:11 pm

Oh god. :( Been to one in the past as part of a school function or whatever.
It's so hard. You have to approach someone, make small talk, then excuse yourself and move to the next one. If it wasn't for all that, they'd rock. But they require so many smooth speedy social interactions, not to mention appropriate conversation and multitasking to notice other people you may know. And lack of stupid remarks, and CONFIDENCE in social interactions! :oops: Torture...



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01 Jun 2009, 12:19 pm

You say "mingle"
I say "revoltingle"...
let's call the whole thing off.



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01 Jun 2009, 12:40 pm

Well I'll be testing that out at the end of the month. Whether I can handle/like it or not.

Though if it's anything like a 'normal' party type thing (lots of people you don't know, drinks/bites to eat, sometimes music, lots of talking all around)...

I think I'll just slap on some lipstick, put on an extravagant dress with matching everything (or since I'm not fashion savvy, MISMATCHING everything :lol: )
and get into character.
Usually that works for the first 30-45 minutes. After that things tend to go downhill and I'll want to stab myself with a blunt pencil by the end of it.



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01 Jun 2009, 12:56 pm

Barbaques are almost as annoying.


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01 Jun 2009, 12:59 pm

OregonBecky wrote:
Barbaques are almost as annoying.


their scary--- when u know the people or if u don't


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01 Jun 2009, 1:14 pm

Ugh. Oh GOD no. I used to have to go to those things in relation to my ex-husband's job, years ago. It was about that time I developed this real complex of shame around the fact that I secretly had nothing in common - nothing - with any of his friends' wives or female co-workers, but I wasn't supposed to admit to that. I just had to hang and make nice to them and be utterly bored. Or, I'd get drunk - and I don't take large amounts of alcohol at all well.

These days, I'm an OK 'mingler' - sort of - at the more casual sort of party (after-gig kind of thing) where you're not putting a face on so much, and where nobody really cares if you end up in another room slumped on the couch because you're getting peopled out.

Weddings are hellish too, I've often found. They're supposed to be days of joy, but if you listen carefully there is so much backstabbing and nastiness going on at the average wedding. Although in that instance, because I'm now married to a photographer, I quite often find I'm at them in a semi-professional capacity (i.e. his assistant). Which means I can't drink...but everyone else can, and it's good fun being sober when everyone else is drunk. (Especially if it's your own family...you can learn a thing or two!)


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01 Jun 2009, 2:04 pm

Erlyrisa wrote:
OregonBecky wrote:
Barbaques are almost as annoying.


their scary--- when u know the people or if u don't


I don't understand the joy of going through all the trouble of setting up an outdoor cooker and then stand around and wait forever for the food to cook and using the waiting forever to chit chat, when there's a perfectly good stove a few feet away in the kitchen.

I understand cooking when you're camping. It's fun then.


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01 Jun 2009, 2:08 pm

:eew: :tired:



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01 Jun 2009, 2:10 pm

Please let me die.
Or no.
Wait.
Just let me have the cocktails.
Then I'll go.
Thanks :wink:


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01 Jun 2009, 3:07 pm

Anything I abhor more? Er...
public beheadings, maybe. Depends on the day.

During the election season, I think I'd volunteer to BE the executioner rather than stand around listening to a bunch of superficial, mediocre, hackneyed political spewings. At volume, with lame music playing in the 'background'.



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01 Jun 2009, 3:29 pm

I don't have any experience with cocktail parties, but I do hate any sort of party where there's nothing to do but "mingle". I've been to quite a few weddings, and they're nearly always as boring as you can get in this regard. Nothing to do but walk around and eat snacks. :?



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01 Jun 2009, 4:19 pm

The only thing I abhor more than a cocktail party is...

... two cocktail parties.


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01 Jun 2009, 4:22 pm

I always end up drunk at those things. Most people seem to be able to have 3 cocktails and are unaffected.. I have low alcohol tolerance, so 3 cocktails for me means instant intoxication. Luckily the places I have worked at have been pretty informal... I have tried to work in formal stuffy workplaces but last all of 5 minutes.