Does anyone else HATE socialising as much I do?

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Sakura786
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01 Jun 2009, 3:10 pm

Do you or don't you? I LOATHE THEM or any type of social gathering.



01 Jun 2009, 3:40 pm

Yes and sometimes I like it but it depends.



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01 Jun 2009, 3:52 pm

I usually like it, it makes me nervous as hell at times but I'd rather socialise than not, the last thing I want is to become a hermit, unfortunatly I seem to be going down that route pretty quickly so I'm making an effort to hold on to my little crappy social life as long as I can.


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01 Jun 2009, 6:33 pm

Yeah I hate socialising in most forms to, more often that not it's booze fuelled and I DESPISE social events which consists of binge drinking and getting pissed.



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01 Jun 2009, 7:30 pm

Hey, I'm NT and I supposedly "enjoy" socializing, but I'm always exhausted afterwards -- even if I'm with people that I like! As I get older, I like socializing less and less.



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01 Jun 2009, 8:22 pm

It depends. I absolutely refuse to interact with peers. However, I've gotten pretty close with some of my parents' friends, as well as other adults.


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01 Jun 2009, 9:11 pm

i love social events where i can remain aloof. i am quite well known on a certain social networking site and i love going to the parties but only when i can interact on my terms. for a while, i lived in a house with a few other members and we would host parties. i hated those because my room, being the largest, was often a center of activity. my ex-girlfriend would pull too many people too close and it would just aggravate the everloving crap out of me. i loved going out to the parties elsewhere, however, because everyone who mattered knew who i was and how i like to interact.

i took up smoking because it's an easy way to excuse yourself from a conversation or other interaction you want out of. at the same time, if i was smoking and didn't want to deal with the other smokers, i could just put the cigarette out and disappear before they were done.

i've since stopped smoking and encourage anyone who does to quit as well. it was a useful crutch but has too many negative side effects. i don't mean the long term potential side effects, i mean the smell and the annoyance at not having a cigarette when i wanted one.



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01 Jun 2009, 11:54 pm

MONKEY wrote:
I usually like it, it makes me nervous as hell at times but I'd rather socialise than not, the last thing I want is to become a hermit, unfortunatly I seem to be going down that route pretty quickly so I'm making an effort to hold on to my little crappy social life as long as I can.


LOL I feel the same way. Especially when I call people to hang out, then they're like "Oh no I'm busy today...." I just go "CRAP"and then give up for another week of alone time.....



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02 Jun 2009, 7:44 am

I always find myself that when I'm around people, such as friends, i think - "WHAT THE HELL AM DOING HERE??? THIS ISN'T ME!!" after actually trying to get in in the first place.

I find all types of socialising repugnant. One time when I was abroad studying at my cousins house (he's married with two kids) all of sudden he takes me to a house full of people I DON'T know. I REFUSED TO INTERACT. I WAS BORED THE HELL OUT OF MYSELF and the worst thing was that a day later they came to HIS house, where I was living, and my cousin FORCED ME to stay downstairs and socialise. I sat there for 6 hrs straight listening to a bunch of 50 year old men talk about shopping channels, racism, who was gonna marry who in some affair I couldn't care less of, for the whole bloody time!! ! And then there is school where I have a constant nack for going to the library all the time as opposed to the common room to hang with my friends.



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02 Jun 2009, 3:57 pm

robbokris wrote:
Yeah I hate socialising in most forms to, more often that not it's booze fuelled and I DESPISE social events which consists of binge drinking and getting pissed.


I hate that kind of socializing, partying, drinking, etc., it's just not me. My family often forced socialization on me and I couldn't stand it at all. They said I didn't get out enough, do enough, etc., but the things they insisted I do just happened to be what my sister was doing and they always insisted I go with her. I felt like they were trying to change me into her or fuse us together into one person, completely erasing me. When she left home, they didn't care about my not going out at all, only when she was around.

Forced socialization does not work, pure and simple.


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03 Jun 2009, 2:09 am

I hate socializing with a passion. I seem to hate it more and more lately. Other people are so horribly LOUD!


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07 Jun 2009, 10:54 pm

I generally despise them, but if alcohol is involved I'm all for it :P


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08 Jun 2009, 9:06 am

I don't usually go to parties, unless I'm forced to or its a LAN Party or something related to my interests (Ironically, I've never been to one of those before, but I wouldn't mind). I'd love to go to this year's PAX (in Seattle, I thinK), but for the most part I avoid social interaction when necessary.



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08 Jun 2009, 12:56 pm

It depends entirely on the size of the room, quality of chair and if there is no obligation to talk if there is no one of interest to be found, if all these requirements are met then I am in, but only if forced.



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12 Jun 2009, 10:08 pm

Depends on the type of people and place. When I goto metal concerts, I'm fine, since the audience is my type. But things like school activites that require getting to know new people, I'm stuffed. I mentally soil my pants about it. Pretty much, anything that is forced into me is an absolute no no for me.


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12 Jun 2009, 10:20 pm

I don't dislike socialising so much as I dislike the uncertainity and anxiety that comes with the socialising. I like people, and I like listening to what they have to say, even if they don't usually tell the truth in small talk (or hide behind half truths). But I don't feel confident about how I social, and feel like a failure every time I mess up something in a conversation. But no, I don't hate socialising, but I can see where you're coming from.