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01 Jul 2009, 4:21 am

Can anyone teach me how to be bitter, uncaring and sarcastic? Thanks.



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01 Jul 2009, 4:51 am

Please????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????



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01 Jul 2009, 6:18 am

Fickle_Pickle wrote:
Can anyone teach me how to be bitter, uncaring and sarcastic? Thanks.


You don't need to be taught, it just develops quite naturally over time :wink:

The irony is that I'd like to learn how NOT to be bitter, uncaring and sarcastic :?


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01 Jul 2009, 6:32 am

ManErg wrote:
Fickle_Pickle wrote:
Can anyone teach me how to be bitter, uncaring and sarcastic? Thanks.


You don't need to be taught, it just develops quite naturally over time :wink:

The irony is that I'd like to learn how NOT to be bitter, uncaring and sarcastic :?


Then... can someone explain how it develops over time? And how can I get a jump on it?



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01 Jul 2009, 7:00 am

just love yourself without any input from anyone else.

always be there for yourself. show yourself the kindness that you are thwarted from showing others.
give your self all your affection.

i love myself because i know i am a person too.
i also love animals because they are like the most basal and raw and true type of communication i can have.

so i love me and my animals and anyone who values it. if people do not value it i do not give them it.

just believe that no one knows what is right or wrong, and no one's judgment of you matters more than your own.

that is all i can say



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01 Jul 2009, 7:03 am

b9 wrote:
just love yourself without any input from anyone else.

always be there for yourself. show yourself the kindness that you are thwarted from showing others.
give your self all your affection.

i love myself because i know i am a person too.
i also love animals because they are like the most basal and raw and true type of communication i can have.

so i love me and my animals and anyone who values it. if people do not value it i do not give them it.

just believe that no one knows what is right or wrong, and no one's judgment of you matters more than your own.

that is all i can say


How can I love myself, If I am a hideously ugly, ignorant b***h? :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:



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01 Jul 2009, 8:03 am

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How can I love myself, If I am a hideously ugly, ignorant b***h? :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:


Being a b***h has advantages :lol:

http://www.heartless-bitches.com/

Seriously I agree w/ b9...just take care of yourself (and animals if you have 'em).

Most of my family considers me a selfish b***h, I look at that as a good thing because it means:
1) I learned how to make myself happy
2) I stopped letting people ruin my life to make themselves feel better. (When you take that power away from someone, of course they're gonna whine like a 2-yr-old and call you names. Then you laugh at them.)



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01 Jul 2009, 8:25 am

TiredGeek wrote:
Fickle_Pickle wrote:

How can I love myself, If I am a hideously ugly, ignorant b***h? :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:


Being a b***h has advantages :lol:

http://www.heartless-bitches.com/

Seriously I agree w/ b9...just take care of yourself (and animals if you have 'em).

Most of my family considers me a selfish b***h, I look at that as a good thing because it means:
1) I learned how to make myself happy
2) I stopped letting people ruin my life to make themselves feel better. (When you take that power away from someone, of course they're gonna whine like a 2-yr-old and call you names. Then you laugh at them.)


My family dosen't think I'm a heartless b***h...















I'm a whining b***h with too much emotion!! !! So my family has power over me!

:cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :evil:

And I'm hideously UGLY!! !

And I wish I were TRULY, GENUINELY selfish to the core, instead of some overly-emotinal attention whore.

I wish I WERE hearltess and sarcastic.



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01 Jul 2009, 8:36 am

"Can anyone teach me how to be bitter, uncaring and sarcastic? Thanks."


This sentence certainly has bitterness to it: "How can I love myself, If I am a hideously ugly, ignorant b***h?"

You are showing the traits you want to have, but you are showing them to yourself. I was once like this, I still am a little, and I can tell you it won't help you in any way.

You seem to be showing signs of being hurt. Maybe tackling the cause of those feelings might help, whatever they may be.

hang in there...



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01 Jul 2009, 8:38 am

double post...



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01 Jul 2009, 8:41 am

i_wanna_blue wrote:
"Can anyone teach me how to be bitter, uncaring and sarcastic? Thanks."


This sentence certainly has bitterness to it: "How can I love myself, If I am a hideously ugly, ignorant b***h?"

You are showing the traits you want to have, but you are showing them to yourself. I was once like this, I still am a little, and I can tell you it won't help you in any way.

You seem to be showing signs of being hurt. Maybe tackling the cause of those feelings might help, whatever they may be.

hang in there...


Well, now I want to be able to express myself through sarcasm, and just throw my cares out the window.



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01 Jul 2009, 9:06 am

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How can I love myself, If I am a hideously ugly, ignorant b***h? :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:


well you arrive at the idea you are a b***h because you listen to others.
"bitchiness" does not exist except in the minds of the beholders who are looking for "b*****s" to proclaim.

just keep the accelerator pushed down and go where you can without anyones interference.

go for a walk in the woods tomorrow and sit on a rock and realize that no one is god.

take some bread and feed it to the animals you encounter who will not notice if you are ugly (in a human assessment way).
they will want you to stick around.

an animal's love is every bit as real (or even more in my case) as a human's love.

you seem innocent to me and you do not deserve your anguish.

sorry i am off to my bed now and i can not help you although i wish i could make you feel better.



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01 Jul 2009, 10:23 am

b9 wrote:
Fickle_Pickle wrote:
How can I love myself, If I am a hideously ugly, ignorant b***h? :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:


well you arrive at the idea you are a b***h because you listen to others.
"bitchiness" does not exist except in the minds of the beholders who are looking for "b*****s" to proclaim.

just keep the accelerator pushed down and go where you can without anyones interference.

go for a walk in the woods tomorrow and sit on a rock and realize that no one is god.

take some bread and feed it to the animals you encounter who will not notice if you are ugly (in a human assessment way).
they will want you to stick around.

an animal's love is every bit as real (or even more in my case) as a human's love.

you seem innocent to me and you do not deserve your anguish.

sorry i am off to my bed now and i can not help you although i wish i could make you feel better.


I don't feel any better. :( I can't do ANYTHING!



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02 Jul 2009, 8:31 am

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Well, now I want to be able to express myself through sarcasm, and just throw my cares out the window.


It seems as if you want the sarcasm to be a shield of some sort. The irony of this unfortunately is that you are still aware (maybe even more so) of your problems. What is it exactly that you wish your sarcasm will bring you? Take it from me, the more conscious effort you put in trying to solve something that bothers you, the more control it has over you. the best thing to do is to let it go....

But this is definitely the hardest part.



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02 Jul 2009, 8:49 am

But I just can't do a thing, I'm useless.


I can't even get my foot out the door. But luckily this week, I may try to get at least one job in fast food service.



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02 Jul 2009, 10:44 am

Fickle_Pickle wrote:
b9 wrote:
Fickle_Pickle wrote:
How can I love myself, If I am a hideously ugly, ignorant b***h? :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:


well you arrive at the idea you are a b***h because you listen to others.
"bitchiness" does not exist except in the minds of the beholders who are looking for "b*****s" to proclaim.

just keep the accelerator pushed down and go where you can without anyones interference.

go for a walk in the woods tomorrow and sit on a rock and realize that no one is god.

take some bread and feed it to the animals you encounter who will not notice if you are ugly (in a human assessment way).
they will want you to stick around.

an animal's love is every bit as real (or even more in my case) as a human's love.

you seem innocent to me and you do not deserve your anguish.

sorry i am off to my bed now and i can not help you although i wish i could make you feel better.


I don't feel any better. :( I can't do ANYTHING!


well i can not help you. you are different fundamentally than me. i can only say words that apply to myself.

i hope someone can help you feel better.