Has anyone every fallin in love unexpexctedly?

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i never thought that i would be the type of girl to say mushy stuff to a guy but now that i am i kinda like it. i thought i would be alone because of what i have. does aypne else feel like that; now i have finaly fallen in love.

I dont think i've ever unexpectedly fallen in love. But thinking back, in the past, I usually figure out I like someone unexpectedly.
It usually just kinda hits me out of no where, one of those 'omg, i like her, i like like her' moments. Usually comes on in the midst of talking to that person, or maybe just thinking randomly in the middle of a store or something, and you come to that realization.

The question is though, what are you gonna do about it? =P

ive fallen in love at first sight three times in my life......

mmmmm amazing feeling

When I met my husband I didn't know he was going to be the next boyfriend I will ever have and the last one I hope.

Falling in Love is always Unexpected.

Love is stimulated behind the eyes, behind the nose in that place above the sinuses that detect pheremones. One whiff of the right pheremones and we are gonners!

Alberoni Theory
In his socio-psychological theory Francesco Alberoni states that falling in love is a process of the same nature as religious or political conversion.

People fall in love when they are ready to change, or to start a new life.

According to Alberoni, falling in love is a rapid process of destructuration-reorganization called the nascent state. In the nascent state, the individual becomes capable of merging with another person and creating a new collectivity with a very high degree of social solidarity. Hence the definition: falling in love is the nascent state of a collective movement formed of two people only.

To understand if someone is truly in love, the individual must be put to truth tests and, to find out they are loved in return, the beloved is also put to reciprocal tests. The incandescent process of the nascent state through these tests gives way to certainty and produces a stable love relationship. According to Alberoni, the phenomenology of falling in love is the same for young people and adults, for men and women and for homosexuals and heterosexuals: this is because the structure of the nascent state is always the same.

Unlike the theories consolidated by psychoanalysis, the sociologist does not consider falling in love as a regression, but instead sees it as launching oneself towards the future and change, and thus as fundamental to the formation of a couple in love.


and then there is

Infatuation is the state of being completely carried away by unreasoned passion or love; addictive love. Usually, one is inspired with an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone.

Infatuation is a common emotion characterized by unrealistic expectations of blissful passion without positive relationship growth or development. Infatuation is distinguished by a lack of trust, loyalty, commitment, and reciprocity. In the case of infatuation, there is more often than not an obsessor and an object of desire (generally unattainable).

and then there is my personal favorite:

Limerence refers to an involuntary cognitive and emotional state of intense romantic desire for another person. The term was coined by psychologist Dorothy Tennov to describe the ultimate, near-obsessional form of romantic love.[1]

The concept is an attempt at a scientific study into the nature of romantic love. Limerence can often be what is meant when one expresses having intense feelings of attachment and preoccupations with the love object.

According to Tennov, there are at least two types of love: limerence, what she calls "loving attachment", and "loving affection," the bond that exists between an individual and his or her parents and children.[2]

Limerence is characterized by intrusive thinking and pronounced sensitivity to external events that reflect the disposition of the limerent object towards the individual. It can be experienced as intense joy or as extreme despair, depending on whether the feelings are reciprocated.

When I was 24, I saw a funny looking little nurse who was five feet tall and had no particular figure.

At first glance I thought "this is my partner" This is my destiny.

I spoke to her and thought she was interesting. She liked books and chess just as I did.

We went out a couple of times and then ended up back at my place.

Then I said "Well now I will have to make an honest woman of you. Will you marry me?"

She said yes and so we did even though we had only known each other two months.

At that point I didn't know she was bipolar and she didn't know I was a bit Aspie.

That was 36 years ago. Those years have not all been easy. We have had to learn the full meaning of "for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health" because we have been there and done that.

But we are still together and still love each other.

i definitely *noticed* a girl at the last school i went to, and lived on for a year. she was fresh and cool enough to give me a big nice flirty smile from the first glance too, while i was tying my shoes, looking up at her coming out of her room

years ago now, it still stays with me, so a pretty nice experience. i stayed in love w her that whole year, and she kept texting me inviting me for late night cigs on the balcony of her building etc.

BUT
too aspie

got nowhere :b

There is this woman that I really like and I think about her a real lot. Like me she has Asperger syndrome. I don't think she is not interested in me and she lives with her parents which there for me is a no go area. I first seen her when she was a little girl in 1975-76 as she was in my class then. 30 odd years later I seen how she had grown into a very attactive woman. This feeling developed out of the blue

Great definitions, MDD123 -- they are a good reference.

I think we've all had Infatuation. I've had Limerence a lot in my life, it's probably the predominant experience for me. I really really obsess on someone (even if they are wrong for me and I know this), and am not reciprocated.

Falling in love is more complicated. A lot of teenagers on their first GF or BF think they are in love, but are really infatuated mutually or have fallen in lust.

When you fall in love, you love everything about that person, their flaws and all. You can't think of life without them, and you complete eachother.

Whenever I fall in love the object of my affection always turns me down. It hurts so much - I think I'd be better off not knowing what "being in love" actually feels like. I've only fallen in love on first sight once in my entire life, but that said she was the quickest to come and go, after she'd said no, than the others were.

It was at a club for people ages 13-20 something i had it at a girl who probalby was 13, I was 14, I stared at her too often, and was unable two get contact for two main reasons:

1. I couldn't behave or speak correctly.

2. I was an Aspie, which was NOT popular.