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Hi, my name is Daniel. Sereth is an online alias I’ve been using for years. I found WP a couple weeks ago while I was trying to find out more information about AS. I don’t know if I have AS or not, I’m not willing to make a definitive statement like that without a lot more evidence. But I do read so many of your posts and all I can think is “OMFG, I could have written that.”

Over my 26 years I’ve had very few friends and I’ve never had any relationships with the opposite sex. I’ve been living in a new city for almost 20 months and haven’t been able to make any friends. I know my neighbor’s cats better than I know any of my neighbors. I’ve never been able to interact with people well, not able to read them I guess. Have a terrible time with sarcasm. And I’m horrible at verbal communication; writing is the medium I can shine in.

Anyways, two months ago, an unusually disastrous failed social attempt brought into stark contrast how terribly lonely I am and sent me into the worst spiraling depression of my life. So now I’m just trying to hold parts of my life together and try to make a little headway on the when I can. Unfortunately, I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t know what to try. I can look back and see that I’ve never learned how to interact socially. The one friend I have in my life right now is my cousin a thousand miles to the east. The exact social opposite of me, she has suggested that I try and observe people in order to learn. But I can’t seem to get across that I have no clue as to where I can go to watch people interacting or that I have no idea what to look for when I get there. She really cares a lot, but I think this problem is just too foreign to her.

So I’m coming to ask for advice from people who might be a little more familiar with this. I’ve got nothing to go on, so I’ll consider anything you’ve got, be it useful tips, a general direction to go in, an actual plan, or detailed blueprints with lots of little labels. Or if one of you would just sneak up behind me and club me over the head, that might work too.

You probably belong here. I believe you will soon have more friends than just the one. Here. Us. Hang around. Welcome.

*sneaks up from behind Sereth*

(taps on shoulder)


"Welcome"

Welcome. I hope you'll feel at home here.

I know just how you feel, I do my people watching at the mall usually. Also I hate sitcoms on tv but I do people watching there too. I hate the laugh tracks but I try to figure out behavior like sarcasm. Also I see how others normally react to emotions. Dramas are good too for that. My 20 yr old son was diagnosed asperger at age 13, he doesn't have near as many traits as he used to, he said he learned how to not act autistic from tv. My favorite sitcom is "Big Bang Theory". Also if you take the asperger quiz you can tell what areas you need to work on. I score higher on the spectrumm than my son for autism and I've never been diagnosed, it's so obvious I don't bother.

This is a popular one. It is not an official diagnostic tool, and I think some of the questions are odd, but I nevertheless think it is not bad for an indication. The official diagnostic tools are in need of revision anyway.

http://www.rdos.net/eng/Aspie-quiz.php