It's bizarre. I don't see it at all as you do.
To me, the bell towers are high to be seen from far away and as for the sound of the bells be able to go everywhere
Except that there is an old style which has very small bell towers.
There are so many symbolims in religious architecture. So many.
And to me, they are not connected to psychology the way you feel about it.
Freud is not that old to be able to explain everything
I have no argument with your observations as structures obviously have multiple functions. Nevertheless the huge vertical structures on Gothic architecture are obviously more symbolic than utilitarian and the church tower in the center of most villages was symbolically the most outstanding structure of all. Your comment on Freud is amusing with the implication that Freud's analyses were somehow referred to in planning and construction rather than that he observed the underlying basic human subconscious motives in human appreciation of architectural shape.