Tory_canuck wrote:
We suffer from the bullying and rejection NOT aspergers.If people were to be more understanding and accept us for who we are...there would be no suffering.
Yep, I think you're right. If the aspie style of being in the world and around people was fully accepted and not looked upon as weird, it would be easier to live with AS. The reason why people say that you "suffer" from AS, is because your way of being in the world is difficult to reconcile with the NT way of being in the world. NTs and aspies work in different ways socially speaking. NTs, although being just as capable as aspies to acquire above average knowledge about special interests, obsess over them and use relentless and complicated logic to achieve goals (I know many aspies seem to think that this is rare among NTs - it is not rare, in fact it is rather the norm than the exception), nevertheless tend to emphasise these skills and characteristics less than the aspies do. These skills are less important in an NT's life and less important to an NT's sense of purpose.
NTs place greater emphasis on social interaction, because it is in our communication with others that we find that extra layer of joy, satisfaction and insight. This layer comes on top of finding satisfaction in special interests and job accomplishments. NTs find people who are highly intelligent great conversational partners IF they at the same time know how to interact in the "NT way". Since NTs value social skills so highly while aspies find these skills difficult to apply it is little wonder that aspies may find socialising with NTs insufferable. Being ostracized as a person with poor social skills may cause pain and suffering because it may lead to isolation and loneliness, and I guess this is why they say that people may "suffer" from AS. Had people learned how to accept differences better, there would be less suffering all around.