HATRED FROM ANOTHER MEMBER

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1 - a graphic image is called graphic for a reason. Saying things like "he doesn't post much," "we'd have to censor the default avatars too," "go get Foxfire," or "it's no worse than kids' TV" are all fallacious positions. It remains what it is, regardless to what B.S. you smear on it. Psychologically, it's well known that graphic images effect the mind is more immediate, more distressing and more intense ways than graphic words. This should be considered more the case with people who are psychologically vulnerable (including kids and teens, who are allowed to participate here) or visually domiant thinkers (as many Aspies and autistics are). This has nothing to do with being "PC" beause it is not about about morality, but about the possibility of causing someone distress on a psychological level.

2 - just because X is someone's interest and obsession or is "very important" to him or her, doesn't necessiate that person exercising a sense of entitlement over against the larger group. Participation in a community or group requires some degree of self-filtering. If members are allowed to participate who refuse to self-filter for the sake of cooperation and respect for the larger group, you can only expect this to alienate and ostracize other members, regardless to how you spin or who you blame. A willful lack of self-filtering is essentially psychological bullying, and like any bullying, the act of passively allowing it has a very broad influence over others and the overall social environment.

I'm actually pretty sympathetic towards Aylissa. I do think that she is being indirectly attacked, but not just by TB Samuri, but by everyone who's failing to see what's really going on here. We have a member that is distressed by the environment created here, and no one's seriously considering if this is the kind of environment WP ought have. No one's cosnidering that maybe there's been others alienated by this and perhaps others who have already left. But unlike Alyssia, just assumed that "This is how WP is" and rather than p*ss off the status quo, just didn't bother to say something before leaving.

I don't think the mods ought censor TB Samuri, but I do think he needs to be "big" about this and consider making more of an effort to be less rigid, reactionary and self-serving. He's purposefully obfuscating Alyssia's original criticism - a criticism of one image in a specific context - and making it into an overall personal attack, which I don't see is the actual case. I feel TB Samuri is off the mark there, and needs to recognize the difference and that there is certainly opportunity here to be more cooperative without having to deny what is meaningful to him.

Furthermore, his insistance that "this is important to me" only strengthen my feeling that it's more about entitlement to do as he pleases rather than it being a necessary element of his ongoing interests. I understand most of us, including myself, come to this forum with many negative experiences of being criticized, ridiculed and ostracized for being different, but that shouldn't mean we get a free pass to do whatever we want here. Rather I think we should take this as an opportunity to learn cooperative skills and make progress in our personal development in a more forgiving and understanding social environment.

Why is the blood in his avatar so offensive, horrifying, or disturbing?

Bleeding from the mouth like that makes me imagine that he is probably injured internally in a possibly lethal way. But that is a big assumption. And there is nothing really graphic about that picture. All you see is a little fluids running down the sides of his mouth. No tissue damage. It could be ketchup for all you know.

Being distractingly disturbed by the mere sight of a bit of blood is rare. Tons of blood is more common, and tissue damage disturbs a lot of people.

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1 - a graphic image is called graphic for a reason. Saying things like "he doesn't post much," "we'd have to censor the default avatars too," "go get Foxfire," or "it's no worse than kids' TV" are all fallacious positions. It remains what it is, regardless to what B.S. you smear on it. Psychologically, it's well known that graphic images effect the mind is more immediate, more distressing and more intense ways than graphic words. This should be considered more the case with people who are psychologically vulnerable (including kids and teens, who are allowed to participate here) or visually domiant thinkers (as many Aspies and autistics are). This has nothing to do with being "PC" beause it is not about about morality, but about the possibility of causing someone distress on a psychological level.

Lol, look who's talking

Nomakens avatar is the stupidest avatar i've ever seen. That image should be banned in 78 countries.

Nomaken's avatar used to creep me out, but I gradually got used to it.