Is anyone here confident?

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I just used my dictionary to see what the word 'confidence' meant. I don't have much of that.

Ok so I misunderstood. You have no idea how you are percieved unless people tell you. I can relate to that. But, people tell you that you are arrogant. So this gives you an idea of people's perception.

I'm a little jealous that you really don't care at all, when people tell you that. Whenever I was told that, it would cause me a lot of stress. I didn't want to be thought of that way so I did everything I could to be thought of differently. If it doesn't cause you stress and you have no intention of getting along better with people, then I guess this conversation is over because I don't know what to say. I care too much what people think of me so I can't really relate to that. Can I just ask you why you feel the need to say, "for christ's sake." instead of, "excuse me?"

It truly depends on the situation and my mood. I had someone ask me once, "why do you think you are better than everyone else?" In my mind, the question shocked me because I feel the exact opposite. I have a complete lack of self-confidence if we are talking about a subject I do not know very well, or if I am out in public where I must interact with others.

Outside of that, if we are talking about sports, meteorology, astronomy, history, art, architecture or politics, I am probably overconfident because I feel I have to "one-up" the other individual.

I tend to be my own worse enemy. When I know someone or when I am talking about a topic I love and have studied I come with few inhibitions, but when I feel uncomfortable, out numbered, or out of my element in any way I come off as weak and passive. When it comes to self image I lack confidence in masses.

I'm considered over confident. Only because of how insecure I am though. I mask my insecurity with an extremely over confident attitude and alienate everyone around me.

Main Entry: con·fi·dent
Pronunciation: \ˈkän-fə-dənt, -ˌdent\
Function: adjective
Etymology: Latin confident-, confidens, from present participle of confidere
Date: circa 1567

1 : full of conviction : certain <confident of success> <confident that conditions will improve>
2 : having or showing assurance and self-reliance <a confident young businessman> <a confident manner>
3 obsolete : trustful, confiding

— con·fi·dent·ly adverb

I'm getting more confident every day. I'm realizing that I've been this way for ever, and that I can't change. Most days, though, I don't want to.

It's weird for me; I usually feel like the smartest person in the room, but I have an terrible inferiority complex.

A counsellor once remarked that I was quite paradoxical when it came to confidence - one minute I'd seem like I knew much better than anybody else how to go about this or that, the next minute it would be like I didn't think I knew anything, but I never seemed to be in the middle.

One thing that makes me become very confident is when I see somebody else trying to do whatever it is, and I can see they're making mistakes that I wouldn't make....I get a strong urge to wade in, push them to one side, and show them how it's done by somebody who knows what they're doing. It's as if my confidence grows whenever I notice that the competition is weak.

yes well i did not have the inclination to write an agonizingly detailed post that perfectly contextualizes all the minutiae pertinent to the general claim i made.

i am not aware at the time of my actions (associated with general public integration (like walking in a supermarket)) that anyone is even conscious of me. i devote no thought to what is happening other than the progress of my agenda (eg: get meat for kookaburras and chicken schnitzels for me and muesli for the possums...etc).
people are obstacles like "thinking portable bollards" to me. i do not feel anything other than hindrance when i encounter them.

however, i am not mentally ret*d and i can assess that someone who tells me i am arrogant is far more attuned to social reality than me, so i accept their description because i trust they are correct since i am blind in that area.

it is like a blind person trusts that his guide is not lying when the guide says "we are passing in front of a palm tree now".

i am intelligent enough to perceive what people (who i know) are trying to tell me, and i can process it adequately.

it is just that i do not really care.
i do not feel like i am the same species as they are even though i am.

an example: someone has a mild interest in giraffes and goes to the zoo to try and befriend some giraffes there. the giraffes are not able to be befriended and they are unappealing because they act in a way that the person did not imagine.
the person decides to just go home and they forget about the giraffes and there is no "injury to their soul" by having not been able to connect with giraffes.
ever after that, whenever that person encounters a giraffe, they ignore it and if the giraffe is blocking the road, they may beep their horn and say "come on!! ! come on!! ! get out of the way!! !"
then when the giraffe wanders out of the way they say "thank god!" and accelerate with impatience away.
that is what i am like with humans. sorry i know that portrays me as a low minded person but that is what i am.



you must care about them more than i do. i would not get my neck stretched and mottled giraffe tattoos on my body in order to please a giraffe.

i have no interest in what people think of me because their thoughts are feeble electrical impulses that can not effect any real consequence to me.

if i am unaware that someone thinks i am like "scum", then i feel nothing, so their thoughts do not affect me. so therefore if i am aware they think i am like scum, then i realize that as soon as i turn my back on them and walk off, their thoughts remain where they are standing, and inside their heads.
my head is off to the carpark and my mind is on what i intend to do when i get home.



i say whatever comes into my head in exasperation if i have to force my through an obstinate crowd of "chatterers".

Ok, I see...well I want to say one thing though. One visit to the zoo isn't enough to connect with a giraffe, who you've never met before. You would have to go several times until the giraffe got used to you and trusted you. You would learn more about the giraffe and the giraffe would learn more about you. Eventually, you would start to feel a bond with him/her and realize it is possible to connect with giraffes. Then if you saw giraffes in the middle of the road, instead of being annoyed by these obstacles, you might look at them differently. Maybe the giraffes in the road are confused. Maybe they're looking for food. You would have a better chance of figuring it out, if you spent more time with them. Then you might be less stressed out by all the giraffes in your way. That's just another thought.

I feel somewhat confident though, there have been times I've felt utterly incapable..Yes, this can be very uneasy yet, many a day I've spent often trying to see how to make things work for me in my life wherein, it has lead to good outcomes but, there has been negative turnouts too..Still, I try to keep to myself the notion I'm able to do things if I don't give up overall...