What determines being Gay?

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First off I'm sorry to offend anyone. This thought came to me last night while falling asleep. I'd think it boils down to sexual interest in the same sex since there are plenty of males and females with roommates of the same sex or hang out with same sex friends and they aren't gay. Sure as a female Angelina Jolie is pretty as are other celebrity women but I don't view them sexually. Or is there more to it? Thanks.

It's the state of arousal with one's own perferred sexual interest.

No one knows how or why.

1. Sex - chromosomal and usually physical (phenotypic) presentation of what you are - Male, Female, hermaphrodite
2. Gender - what you "feel" you are, partly biological and partly a result of cultural values - male, female, or a mixture in the middle called androgynous
3. sexual orientation - heterosexual (attracted to people the opposite sex as you), homosexual (attracted to people the same sex as you) and pan/bisexual - attracted to both to some degree

there can be mixes of all of the above - like transgendered - someone who feels and may act/dress like the opposite sex, cross-dresser (straight person who likes to dress like the opposite sex for sexual reasons),

There are biological aspects to the brain which correlate with sex, gender, and orientation - but there is not necessarily an established causal link between having your brain configured in that manner and what you are. There are also societal considerations in which behaviors are encouraged or discouraged, think of the ancient greeks where homosexuality was encourage among the armed forces, or present day conservative christians who view it as sinful behavior that should be changed and strongly discouraged.

Overall, it seems like the originial feelings/drives are biological, but how the behavior looks is affected by the culture you are a part of.

I once took a gay test in a magazine. It was a gay magazine for teenage boys. Anyways, the test had one question..."Does this picture give you a boner?" (underneath it was a picture of a gorgeous guy) If you answered yes, you were gay. If you answered no, you weren't gay. I guess it's not so easy to tell for girls though. haha

It's a spectrum.
I am not really sure what determines it hands-down...for some it is cut and dry...they like the same sex..they do not like the opposite sex case closed.
When I was a teenager, I would have crushes on both genders...I would have sort of inexplicable hormonal attractions towards girls...and guys....but I grew out of it for some reason..and am seldom attracted to anyone.

My very good friend is a male, but he has felt like he was a girl...or really both genders..since he was a child..(I had sort of the same issue as a child..but felt more like a boy)....BUT...he exclusively likes girls....I think they call that bi-gendered...or gender-queer...and frankly, that is one of the things I find quite attractive about him..his dual-gendered-ness..

I guess that is on the spectum of--but different from being gay.

Do you:
1. Have sex with the same sex?
2. Want to have sex with the same sex?
3. Make out with the same sex?
4. Have sexual fantasies about the same sex?

Congratulations: you're gay!

Like every other trait, this too is a combination of genes and life experiences while growing up. Which contributes more, the genetics or the environment... that's impossible to say. A control experiment for this would be impossibly difficult to set up.

The only time a man is "gay" is if he's sexually attracted to men.

Two straight males can have sex, but if they aren't sexually attracted to men, they aren't gay.

Same applies with females. Also gay men aren't sexually attracted to females.... AT ALL. Even if they have sex with them. I know gay men who've had sex with women because they're bored.

Pardon my "forwardness", but most men would probably enjoy Anal sex because apparently massaging the prostate gland drives them wild. This applies to straight men and gay men.

^ Yuuuuuck! Me with a guy? No way.

I like boobs.

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