I found out my co-worker has a crush on me

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Another co-worker of mine asked me today if something was going on between me and Lizzy (not using her real name online for obvious reasons). I was curious and replied to my co-worker "no", then I asked why she was inquiring. She told me that Lizzy has been talking about me. Lizzy asked my friend if she thinks I like her, and if I want to go out with her. Lizzy told my friend she thinks I like her, which is true. Lizzy always sits with me during her break at work too, and she calls me honey and other sweet things. She also said to ym friend, oh we talk alot at work and he added me to facebook. My friend asked Lizzy is she wanted to go out with me, but she said she wasn't sure. Lizzy said that she has issues that she doesn't want to drag me into. She also said she doesn't have much luck in relationships, and her previous relationships haven't ended well. her last boyfriend caused her tons of stress and anxeity, and overall didn't respond to her needs.

I know that Lizzy has anxiety issues, as her and I have discussed our similar issues (she does not know, though, that I have AS). I am not sure though what her issues are, since I haven't prided myself into her business. My friend has told me that Lizzy likes me too, but it seems she has something going on in her life that I am not aware of. The question now comes to this: where do I go from here?

Maybe 'Lizzy' as Asperger's as well and is too shy to tell you her feelings? Perhaps she wants you to make the first move?

If there is some mind games going on, it is probably the so-called friend. In high schools, girls would often have fun at my expense by saying "[Insert Name Here] likes you." as part of joking around.

Those are the only possible reasons that I can think of.

I've been through this crap and they can get really nasty. I think the playing starts when they wonder why you haven't made a move more than friends. From my experience, I think you need to ask her out or stop being friends with her before she gets nasty and thinks she's been scorned.

Congrats I would think that you should take chance and go with her and i'd probably suggest that you tell her that you have aspergers but I wouldn't be sure if it seems like a good idea... or maybe ask her if you have feelings for her or tell her how you feel about her, she might say the same thing back, good luck

Perhaps I should have provided more imformation before hand. My friend isn't playing with my feelings; we\re too close for her to do that. She has helped me out with many problems I've had in the past, so she wouldn't do that to me. Neither would the girl who I think has a crush on me. Until my friend told me, I had no idea she was intersted. Its occured to me that Lizzie might have AS; she certainly has AS-traits, but I don't think she has the actual disorder. She does have an anxeital disorder that she's on mdeication for. The reason I ask if I should ask her out is because I know I am not being played. Also too, we are not in highschool; were all in college/university now.

I think the friend who spoke with you is really trying to help - why don't you ask her for her advice? Just be straight with her and tell her you'd like to date Lizzie, and ask her if she thinks Lizzie would be okay with you asking her out. I know she kinda, sorta answered that question, but if you open up to her a little about your true feelings for Lizzie and ask for a little more advice and/or intervention, she'll probably offer any help she can.

If your friend can't give you any more info and/or ideas about how to approach Lizzie, I suggest that you still approach her. There's no guarantee that she'll accept a date, but you both seem to like each other - why not give it a shot? Good luck.

So, I have a bit of an update. yesterday my friend from work told me that Libby wanted her to tell me that she met a guy at school and now there dating. She said she really liked this guy for a long time and didn't think he would ever ask her out. Apperently he's really hot.

This whole situation annoys me. Tell the friend to mind her own business and let Lizzie speak for herself....in a nice way, if you can muster it.

Also, I don't trust people that call people honey and sweetie unless they are actually in a romantic relationship with the person. It seems phony and I think it is meant to be disarming.

HA I think I'm getting so pissed because these are the girls who always get the guys. lol

In my honest opinion, going out with a co-worker just isn't a good idea. You don't need that kind of drama in your job, it's distracting and if things don't go well it will make your job worse. Have some co-workers liked me? A few have in a strange way but I've never had anything to do with them and I plan to keep it that way. There are better places to meet people.

Libby went on a date last night but it didn't go well for her. She said the guy she went with told her that he was in love with her best friend, and she's really mad. She thinks he was just using her to make her friend jealous. We have a Christmas party coming up and Libby will be driving me home; it will just be me and her. All my coworkers have told me she wants to drive me, so I think I am going to ask her to the movies or something.