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26 Nov 2009, 7:51 pm

Pretty straightforward title, but at least everyone knows what I mean.

What don't you like about yourself? Can be ANYTHING, looks, personality, social problems etc. Don't be shy.

This thread is only here for POSITIVE OUTCOMES and intentions.



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26 Nov 2009, 7:56 pm

My mouth, it also blows


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26 Nov 2009, 8:09 pm

I don't like having anxiety and learning difficulties but I know I can't get rid of it. But I have learned to cope with my anxiety and I try and avoid situations that causes them.


Plus I'm lazy.



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26 Nov 2009, 8:23 pm

Spokane_Girl wrote:
I don't like having anxiety and learning difficulties but I know I can't get rid of it. But I have learned to cope with my anxiety and I try and avoid situations that causes them.


Plus I'm lazy.


What sort of things do you get anxious about?
As far as learning difficulties go, what do you have trouble with the most?

As for lazy, do you mean lazy as in don't excersise or lazy as in dont do anything?



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26 Nov 2009, 9:21 pm

I have dreams of having unprotected sex with all kinds of different women, yet in reality, I'm asexual unless it comes to the right woman, and have no intention of being a manwhore, even in a different life. My body just wants me to reproduce so badly.



26 Nov 2009, 9:35 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
Spokane_Girl wrote:
I don't like having anxiety and learning difficulties but I know I can't get rid of it. But I have learned to cope with my anxiety and I try and avoid situations that causes them.


Plus I'm lazy.


What sort of things do you get anxious about?
As far as learning difficulties go, what do you have trouble with the most?

As for lazy, do you mean lazy as in don't excersise or lazy as in dont do anything?




Lazy as in motivation, getting stuff done, working at things. I can care less about being too lazy to play video games because they are not important in life. It can take me like five hours to do my laundry or take me a few weeks to finally clean the bathroom and then I have lot of fun doing it because I let it get so bad. I even have to force myself to go out and get stuff done and it has felt stressful. I just tell myself to shut up and do it and get it over with. I can't be lazy.


It's hard to explain what I get anxious about. It happened all the time when I was in school because of dead lines and stuff. That creates friction. I used to get anxious when I had to wait in long lines. When things don't go my way, I get anxious but when I am in control, I don't get anxious. I have lot less anxiety now because I am not in school and I don't live at home and I don't deal with people. My husband doesn't do anything to cause it. He lets me do whatever I want. I don't get anxiety anymore when I get stuck in traffic or when I can't find my keys in my purse. I just keep looking before I freak out because I have to make sure they aren't there or else I had anxiety over nothing.

Learning difficulties, my work had to be modified in school. I'm a concrete learner and I had difficulty with reports. Only time I found them easy is if the teacher didn't make it so rigid and saying how many pages it had to be and all. I also had difficulty finding answers in textbooks because the answers aren't exact. I needed help with almost everything in school. I was able to do Spanish on my own because it was concrete. It was just memorization and the teacher always told us what be on the test so I knew what to expect. Reports, I have difficulty organizing my thoughts and deadlines create friction so I hate them. My thoughts are all disorganized and jumbled up but yet I can write stories. I have no dead lines is why and will never join a story writing contest. I can write whatever I want and there are no rules and I just write parts and I can put them together.
Plus there's plagiarism and I have difficulty coming up with my own words. Most things I say come from what I hear or read so if I am expected to write a report using my own words, how do I do that without using words I learned from the internet or textbook?
I don't have any specific learning disability because I don't fall in any catagory. I just have a different way of learning but I am still considered as having one to society. If you learn different that it makes you need help from special ed, accommodations, you're considered learning disabled.



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26 Nov 2009, 9:38 pm

I remain insecure about my looks and sex appeal...specifically my face. I am a freshman in college, but largely went through high school with little to no attention from girls and didn't even get a girlfriend until this September.

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26 Nov 2009, 10:52 pm

Icewolf wrote:
I remain insecure about my looks and sex appeal...specifically my face. I am a freshman in college, but largely went through high school with little to no attention from girls and didn't even get a girlfriend until this September.

http://i379.photobucket.com/albums/oo23 ... 0_1713.jpg

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Oh my! I think you are VERY nice looking! If I was young I'd go for you in a heartbeat. What do you think is wrong with how you look?

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26 Nov 2009, 11:02 pm

Largely, my insecurities happened because of the lack of attention I got from girls in high school.

I understand it's VERY faulty reasoning, but I basically thought that being a virgin at eighteen meant I wasn't good enough to elicit attraction from anyone. Basically a "it's not happening now, so will it ever happen?" logic. Some things have been resolved, but the insecurities remain: "is my girlfriend genuinely attracted to me?" "does she only like my personality?" etc.

Admittedly, I have issues with body image.



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26 Nov 2009, 11:24 pm

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Largely, my insecurities happened because of the lack of attention I got from girls in high school.

I understand it's VERY faulty reasoning, but I basically thought that being a virgin at eighteen meant I wasn't good enough to elicit attraction from anyone. Basically a "it's not happening now, so will it ever happen?" logic. Some things have been resolved, but the insecurities remain: "is my girlfriend genuinely attracted to me?" "does she only like my personality?" etc.

Admittedly, I have issues with body image.


I didn't lose it until I was twenty. And I had offers.

Seriously though, you are CUTE! Man... if I wasn't married...

No, but really. You shouldn't worry about finding cute girls or girls who think you are cute. Find nice girls. They'll look cuter in 20 years than the prom queen ever did.


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26 Nov 2009, 11:26 pm

I also hate my shyness and wish I could say more things but then I might end up offending more people or maybe saying more innaproppiate things.



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27 Nov 2009, 12:28 am

In a case like mine, this would just be more suited for the Haven. Where to even start...



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27 Nov 2009, 12:35 am

I lack a positive Image of my self.



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27 Nov 2009, 1:48 am

Icewolf wrote:
Largely, my insecurities happened because of the lack of attention I got from girls in high school.

I understand it's VERY faulty reasoning, but I basically thought that being a virgin at eighteen meant I wasn't good enough to elicit attraction from anyone. Basically a "it's not happening now, so will it ever happen?" logic. Some things have been resolved, but the insecurities remain: "is my girlfriend genuinely attracted to me?" "does she only like my personality?" etc.

Admittedly, I have issues with body image.


My oldest son who is 20 now didn't lose his virginity until he was about to turn 18. He had had a gf for about a year but she didn't want to have sex so he didn't push her. He didn't really date anybody after they broke up, and he was about to have to go to kid jail for three months on a weed charge. He was going to turn 18 in jail. The girl that is now is fiance was a good friend of his and in the group he hung out with. She had liked him for a long time anyway but she told him they should have sex so that he wouldn't turn 18 in jail and be a virgin too. She was also my friend and she told me about it the next day, but thankfully with no details. Anyway, they ended up starting to date at the end of last summer and they are engaged now and she's pregnant. He had only dated one girl before, and if his now fiance hadn't suggested it, he might not have lost it for a while. Eighteen isn't really old to be a virgin for a guy.

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27 Nov 2009, 6:26 am

You go first, OP.



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27 Nov 2009, 7:31 am

TheHairyMuffinMan wrote:
You go first, OP.


Why, so I can help myself with my own problems? Whats the point of that? Anyway will make a proper post here tomorrow with some replies :)