HopeGrows wrote:
OP, my impression is that AS can make some people feel very socially isolated, so some Aspies place a premium on finding that one special person they can relate to, that will understand and accept them, and ultimately, love them. I think most NTs would like someone special to share the journey with, even if they are self-reliant and independent by nature. It's just another way to feel anchored in a very big world.
I think I've stopped anchoring to people. Really I see no need for relationships any more. If I do have one, that's great makes me feel nice. But I've gotten to the point where I can't trust nor care enough for a person.
Every thing they do, every thing they say, I somehow have to look at it with an ulterior motive with it. I just can't let things be.
Most of the time when talking to people, I've been through enough that I've become a ghostly observer, when I watch body language, hear a certain in their voice, etc.
I can see the reality of people. It's like people try to be real, but they are just really really fake.
I can understand I'm lonely and would like to share it with one person. But that doesn't mean you need to get desperate and start searching all over the place for someone.
That's needy.