Detecting Attraction 101: Nonverbal Cues

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These things seem to come natural to NTs. To me it seems like its like a private club that everyone else knows about and will never let you "in". When you find different NTs giving the same non verbal cues, but they mean different things to them, how the heck are people that have no idea how to read these cues learn what they mean if there is such a wide range of what they can mean?

I have been trying to learn these type of things all my life and no matter how hard I try I still don't get it. Thats why its easier just for people to say what they want and mean what they say, no mixed signals.

The only non verbal cues I seem to pick up is the really obvious ones.

dose anyone else get offended by the veary idea of serious body languge like im weird cuz I talk to other human beings stright up and dont treat everyone aroumd me like animals or always tlak around elefant im just stright up and honest and ppl cant handle it they retated ones trying to use body lanuge like we dont spaek english lol

This topic is very good.. I need someone to wack me over the head and tell me point blank that they like me for me to realise.

It's just lucky that I'm married! My life would be very confusing otherwise. I remember that a former boss once stood in front of me with his leg on a chair and his groin in my direction whilst talking to me one day. I remember only thinking at the time that it was odd, realising later after reading books on body language that this was indeed a signal. D'oh

Here's a bit about it from a book called Body Language - How to read others thought from their gestures by Allan Pease:

to me - it seems more likely for 2 aspies to be able to click and open up. does that make any sense or is my form of logic a little off? my logic says that because the 2 people are in the exact same boat - and being in the same boat it would make it easier to relate to each other.

This is a really good post! I posted something earlier about this woman who sits next to me in one of my classes that has been not only been showing body language, but also has been trying to start conversations with me every class. To continue from my old post, last class she asked to borrow a piece of paper from me, but was talking about the weather again like when she borrowed the pen from me the previous class. Just today was a little different though. The professor was in the middle of his lecture and she turned to me and asked me if I understand what he is talking about, because I guess it was going over her head. I wasn't expecting it and it was so sudden. She darts her head to face me and looked deep into my eyes and asked me that and I just told her that I understand it for the most part, but when he speaks using a lot of jargon it can be hard to follow and that it seems to require all of my focus. Then another thing happened. I asked the professor if there was going to be a quiz on Monday and he kind of got a little mad and said something like: "Your really asking me about a quiz now?" I was felt he was being a little rude because of his unnecessary tone with me so I wound up smarting off to him and that woman who sits next to me looked at me and actually laughed pretty loud. I think she thought it was genuinely funny because a few people thought what I said was funny too, but she laughed louder than the others and looked at me too. I also noticed that she was sitting with one leg hanging over the other and the leg that was hanging over the other was pointing towards me and she was doing that thing where she was slipping her foot in and out of her slip on that was hanging in the air. Does this woman like me and want to be more than friends? Can the women on here please explain if this is an obvious case and should I just ask her out already?