I'm creepy?

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I attended a party New Year's Eve, and as expected, I became overstimulated by the loud noise and people and had to excuse myself to rest in an empty room for a bit. Someone walked in called me creepy for being there alone =/ Naturally this bothered me, I don't want to be seen as weird or creepy but I couldn't have stayed downstairs as I was on the verge of a shutdown... When asked why I was there I said I needed some quiet time, but apparently that's strange?? Do people think you're weird or creepy for doing stuff like this? How would you react?

By saying I'm autistic, and I need to chill out for a bit. If they think you're creepy, f**k them. They'd be a whole lot more creeped out if you'd stayed downstairs and had a meltdown.

I do this too. For me, this is the upgrade over saying something extreme or feeling spaced out. For some, retreat is a meltdown prevented by an improved self awareness and management of one's own feelings.

Well, if you are creepy for wanting to be alone for a few minutes of peace and quiet at a party, then that must mean that I'm creepy 24/7, because I'm alone all the time.

I know it probably didn't feel too great to have this person say that's creepy, but don't take it personally. Maybe he/she was one of those super-social, extrovert types who can't bear to be alone with themselves for more than 30 seconds. In general, though, I think most people can at least comprehend the need to get away for a bit. Even the most neurotypical and/or social people get headaches once in a while, and I assume they'd like to get away from the noise.

Bit irrelevant, but awesome Dr. Strangelove avatar to Sgrannel.

Its odd for me to imagine staying calm and collective at a social gathering, and for an NT, Its hard for them to imagine someone becoming so distressed.
Whoever said that, should not have been so rude.

I think people think something is creepy when they don't understand why you do it, because they don't know what you are thinking, and there ARE creepy people (who end up doing bad things) in the world who act in ways people can't understand.. so it's just a safety instinct, I think, to be wary of mysterious things/people/actions. It is unfortunate though.

Being alone in a room isn't creepy. F that S.

I don't think that's creepy, at all. You've got to do what you've got to do.

[quote="Sati"... When asked why I was there I said I needed some quiet time, but apparently that's strange?? Do people think you're weird or creepy for doing stuff like this? How would you react?[/quote]

How would I react, (or more aptly how do I hope I would think to react)? Well one approach would be to try to briefly explain the truth in term that they can identify with. For instance, if you had said, " I think I got into some stuff too fast that was too strong for me to handle, and it would be uncool to upchuck in public, so I came in here to let things settle" Now that could be a very true statement for you to make, (with personal adjustments to things like "upchuck"). They would probably think you were talking about hitting too much booze to fast (seeing as how it was New Year;s). And they might end up thinking that you were an eager party animal with the good sense to throttle back when you were overdoing it, and therefore a cool dude (which you were actually being in a sense that they didn't grasp ).

As it was, what you told them, they could not fit into any pattern that they understood. Hence, since you were not understandable, you were "other", "not one of the crowd" and therefore classifed as "creepy".

And hey, cut them a little slack, they could have actually been hitting the booze early since it was new years and perhaps were having trouble being socially adept.

The only problem with what I have just described is that hindsight is often 20:20, but maybe you can use it to plan ahead for next time.

Does anyone notice how the extreme extroverts expect everyone to be like them, needing no social breaks? And they can't understand or accept anyone else? I don't understand wanting to be the center of attention at a huge party and handling the non stop commotion, but I acknowledge others enjoy it, and that is their thing. I don't try to force them to take breaks, or tell them they are strange for their behaviors.

Not a creep for escaping for a little bit. I have been known to hide in the bathroom when needing a break.

No its far from creepy, in fact its a good sign that you know when to escape thereby avoiding a shutdown / meltdown.

People assume many things, who knows what this person was assuming? A way that you could have handled it better and made them to look into their own judgement system would have been to catch up with the person later and briefly explain ASD.

Off course it is entirely possible that a drunk extrovert and an Aspie trying to get away from the crowd interacted and 'never the twain shall meet'

I would not worry about it. But then I have stopped going to parties because I do not fit in