Re-establishing Contact: How do you do it?

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This is something that I've been having some trouble with lately; even though I do have friends, a great many of them I've lost touch with, and haven't spoken to in months, even years. I suppose part of it is my fault, because I'm not very good with initiating contact and calling people, but these people aren't doing their part to try and contact me either, so I don't know if contacting them would be a welcome suprise or a rude interruption. As hard as it is for me to contact someone I don't know in the first place, it's even harder to contact someone I haven't seen in a while, because I don't know if they want to hear from them. This is as true of real life friends as it is of online-only friends, many of whom I've lost touch with, even when I very much wanted to keep talking to them.

Does anyone have any advice as far as how to re-establish contact with old friends? In other words, is there any special way of going about contacting someone without being obtrusive?

I dont like making any contact with people who i do not naturally and casually contact over my day and week. I think it is pointless and annoying to try to get together with people who you do not naturally see. A trick however is to get a hobby or job which causes you to see them many times a day. I hate meeting old friends i never see anymore because they want to get together sometime and do something. And neither of us know the others schedual and there is like no damn chance there wont be a conflict.

I too have had that problem and sorry to say I have no easy solution theres a hole list of people I'like to contact but it's hard to do they are far away and I'm akward on the phone.