Party---I need as many answers as I can get within 2 hrs

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There is a back to school event. I think that it will be a dance party. I am not sure. I have a friend that will stick around with me if I want. But, I'd like to make this more of a success than the last time I went to a dance party with this group. Given, the last one was a date party that I decided to go to at the last minute and thus didn't have time to get a date (but people didn't nessasarily stay with their date the whole night).

What should I do to improve my social skills in this sort of situation. If it turns out to be a dance party, it may be a problem because I have trouble going up to people and asking to dance. But I still want to go. It starts in a couple of hours so please reply soon.

Be spontanious and take things spontanious. Follow the people you feel comfortable with and take it from there.
If your group decide to dance then go with them and dance too. When dancing there is no talking, more moving, smiling and having fun. I would prefer that kind of socialisation if I was you

Have eyecontact with people on the dancefloor if you can, to see who wish to dance with you and not. Keep track of "your people" where they go and if they leave.

Be openminded about social situations and be prepared to do what others want to do, even if you might not be in the best mood to do it yourself.
Says I who NEVER comes close to any similuar situations. I just think how I would try to do...

Good Luck and have fun!

Just jump in and think of it as a learning experience. Like a social experiment that even if it goes bad, will only make you better in the end. It's all about improving and sometimes the only way to do that is to shock yourself into doing it. It's like a shock thearapy sort of. You go into a really scary situation that you have no clue how to handle and you learn.

Well that's usually what I do in situations like this...jump in and hope it goes well. Problem is, a lot of the time, it doesn't work out. Hence, my question. MORE RESPONSES PLEASE.

I hate giving advice, especially in situations like this. I will try.

That sense of self observation, the one that builds in a delay in responding and expressing? Lose it. Sound hard? It should. Is it guaranteed to be successful? No. But it does offer a change in behavior, which can result in a change in results. At the very least, you get to see how others respond to "unfiltered you" for once.

Again, I hate giving advice and there isn't any promise of immediate benefit with what I suggest above.


M.

I'd hate to say it. It took me 4 years to learn what you want to learn in 2 hours. And though I've made a major improvement and can generally fit in, I'm still not perfect yet.