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20 Jan 2010, 4:12 pm

Hi,
I'm a 23yo male, who is wondering if I have aspeger's. A friend who is a very learned mental health nurse, suggested that I displaying autistic traits, and on reflection I feel I match up quite nicely to the description on [NAS' UK website]. I was told about this site by one my friends who is an aspie (I don't know her username unfortunately).

I don't honestly know how much I want to rely on this. I don't know how I can fully explain myself, but the prospect of being diagnosed with a condition is always something of a dichotomy to me. On one hand you have what may be a blessing; to have a greater understanding of what may afflict me. On the other hand, I have always had a fear that if I get ill - be it suddenly, i.e. food poisoning, or something like dyspraxia, dyslexia or asperger's - that people will think I'm faking it or using as an excuse for my... less thoughtful behaviour. I know that may sound irrational because it probably is, but thinking like this stretches back from before secondary school.

I have a very understanding GP, but I'm scared of what may happen if it doesn't turn out that I get a diagnosis. Does that mean I'd just be a **** up. I'm also scared of what might happen to my career (I'm a student mental health nurse)

Cheers!

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20 Jan 2010, 4:37 pm

Hello xan_asmodi, welcome,

I understand what you consider as the downsides of going for a diagnosis.
I got diagnosed with Asperger's recently and I consider it positive as it explains a lot and makes things easier to understand. And once I knew I had Asperger's, I also knew there are others that also have it.

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20 Jan 2010, 4:55 pm

xan_asmodi wrote:

Can you work, go to school? If so, dx is not really "necessary" in any sense other than the being-able-to-tell-people-and-understand-myself-a-bit-better sense.

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20 Jan 2010, 5:01 pm

I suppose I should say my name is David.

I can see the positives, it'd mean my girlfriend would have solid reasons for me being erm... unthinking. It'd also explain a lot of my childhood behaviours. I'm just scared really; scared of being a patient rather than the healthcare professional, but then the unknown is always scarey.

Thanks for the quick reply Scientist

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20 Jan 2010, 5:56 pm

Having AS/HFA does not automatically make someone a patient, as far as I know, and definitely not ill. For myself, knowing about myself simply helps put things in perspective just like for anyone else.

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20 Jan 2010, 5:58 pm

welcome to the website!

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20 Jan 2010, 6:06 pm

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20 Jan 2010, 6:08 pm

To WrongPlanet!! !

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21 Jan 2010, 12:54 am

Welcome to WrongPlanet David.

Don't worry about your career... As long as you manage your conditions well, and that you don't reveal your identity, your job should be safe. Stay awesome yeah!

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21 Jan 2010, 3:33 am

leejosepho wrote:

Having AS/HFA does not automatically make someone a patient, as far as I know, and definitely not ill.

Sorry thats something I'm gonna have to iron out in my training! :oops: