Feel nervous/lack of confidence

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HowlingMad1992
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10 Feb 2010, 12:18 pm

I haven't been out with a girl since last June, even though at times its made me sad and depressed in a sense I've got use to being single. Last night I was out with my dad and when I first walked into the bar I noticed this girl sat there. Later on I was told that the girl was looking at my direction though I didn't notice most of the time. When she was leaving my dad asked her what her name was and pointed to me, in which I said hello before she went. After she had left my dad said that we might see her around some time and I would be interested in seeing where it goes if it does happen. The point I'm trying to make in this thread is that is it normal to feel nervous?



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10 Feb 2010, 2:46 pm

I'm always nervous when I like a girl, I think mostly because of how much of my control I feel slips my grasp when I meet someone like that. But everyone is different, and there is nothing wrong with you feeling that way. Since some people, women and men both, will tell you that a lack of confidence is the death knell for any potential dating prospects, I'm not sure what you can do about it, but I do wish you luck with her. Sorry if I can't tell you any cure all advice, being that I'm in my 30s and single for 99% of that time, but at least you can know that it's a fairly common issue and some people are able to work past it.


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10 Feb 2010, 2:55 pm

If you find out, will you tell me the secret cure? I'm really bad for that. Sometimes, I can't even speak properly.



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10 Feb 2010, 4:46 pm

If you like a girl, be yourself on initial approach.


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