social battery

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I do find that I need to charge my social battery, from time to time. I'll have three weeks to do that, starting next week.

Funny/odd thing about that awkwardness.
Ive notice when my wife goes out of town for several days ,and then when she comes back it's as if she is an almost stranger in that 'something' seems to evaporate almost imperceptibly in that short amount of time.
It's as if my social side is buffered in another side/different part of the brain through 'force' exposure .
I think I would revert to my old akward unhealthy self if I had too much isolation ....in short order

I'm going through it right now. The day after socialising I am exhausted, cranky and don't want to be around people. I t usually takes a whole week to recharge, and I have only been resting for one or two days. At least now I won't have to do anything until next week. And no gigs for a couple of weeks.

When I recently made a friend in real life it was like this for me. She invited me to her house and yes, that was fine but by the end of the day I was so tired and didn't have the energy to be social. She wanted me to come over the next day aswell but I told her that I couldn't. I went home and for a few days felt mentally exhausted and couldn't concentrate on doing much of anything.

It's the same for me at family gatherings or group activities (like my pottery class on thursdays, or going to the AS social group). I could never go for 5 months with having to try to be someone that I'm not. I can barely go 5 days and even then I don't do a very good job of it.

That makes me think of how I get sometimes when I'm around people too much. Well, by be around them I mean when a particular person or people want to be around me a lot in a short span of time. If it's too much, I get this very sick feeling in my belly - it's not a feeling related to digestion, and it only happens in this situation. It's almost like there's this unseen demand on the part of the other person that is so wanting of attention that it feels sort of obscene to me. It's too much and as soon as I get that feeling, I have to isolate myself. And the person who is the object of all this doesn't have to have any ulterior motives or anything, it's happened around people I like very much. And very oddly, for the first time in my life, I got this feeling watching the news the other day - it was like the anchor was too much - that was very weird since for 35 years it's been when there's someone I actually am interacting with - never the media. I dove for the remote sooo fast. And the anchor was just talking, and it wasn't disturbing or anything. I guess that's kind of like recharging batteries, but it's sort of like my batteries get sick. Does anyone else ever feel that way? No one has ever known what I was talking about - they look at me like I have 2 heads.

same here...although i need to be alone it just makes it harder and harder as time goes on to get used to being social again.

Interesting you should say that.......when my wife visits, I have no clue what to say to her for the first day or so.

That is what happens, when I haven't interacted with a friend of mine for over a week. When she calls, it is as if I am making polite conversation with a stranger, who is vaguely familiar. I know that I would revert rapidly to the "hermit" persona, if she totally lost interest. Sad to say, I am not sure that I would really miss her that much. I wonder sometimes, if anyone can really affect the innermost regions of my soul?

There's a related term I remember people used in PUA culture. Forgot the exact term. Ditto for psychology. Anyone remember the related terms? When I heard the terms and their descriptions, they reminded me of the social battery concept.

EDIT: I remember, that 'how women/men communicate differently' thing. E.g. males might more often not like talking at home as they do not have to talk and put their point/data in to make sure stuff is being done right, or they 'appear' smart' [later thing seems like something NTs would do more]