What is it like when 2 Aspies meet?

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That I'm aware of, I've never met anyone else who has AS. Naturally I've always seemed to fall into groups of people who also don't quite fit the mold of what is considered normal, I guess if you're different, then its easier to see and accept the differences that others have. While talking to my parents the other day, they started pointing out thatmy friends may have AS,and after thinking about it, I'm fairly certain none of them do. In the process of considering what symptoms are common with AS, and which of those that different people I know seem to have, or don't have, I couldn't think of a single person I know who really seems like they could have AS. The closest cases surprisingly weren't my friends but instead were certain close relatives. Even then though, they all seemed to fall short.

I know I have talked to a few aspies online, and not just here on Wrong Planet. I hope I can one day, maybe even in the near future meet someone inreal life who also has the condition, mainly just to see how it goes. What does it feel like? How would a conversation with another aspie go? How would the fact that our special interests either are or aren't the same effect the outcome?

A lot of awkward silence. Then trying to bring up something relevant though I think I monologued in front of the poor boy.
I've only met one other person with AS though - the singer of The Vines.
I did get to show him my photos that I took of his band. I'm not sure how interested he was. He was hard to read. He rarely made eye contact. I did have a nice chat and got his and another band mate's autograph.
But I was still all ZOMG I showed my photos to The Vines!

hello, Neon304
all i can say to you is that you may have conversed with aspies without noting anything out of the ordinary because they seemed not different from yourself. i know i have. i had a personal physician who i am pretty sure had strong aspie traits- he seemed retiring but kindly, and very intelligent. he was one of the few highly intelligent people i have met who didn't wear it on the sleeve.
i have conversed with many tech support folk over the phone, and i would bet good money that the lions' share of 'em were aspie- they were not often kind, understanding or patient. a lot of 'em talked AT me rather than to me as though i were just an irritating chore to be dispatched rather than an actual real live human being with feelings. i was not impressed. unfortunately, they reminded me of myself sometimes. unpleasant.
i met a child in the supermarket, who confronted me while i was perusing the tins of tomato sauce, and asked me in a stentorian monotone, "do you know where daddy went?" [not MY daddy]. in the military i met many folk who in retrospect i would have to say they were at least somewhat aspie - they were a legalistic, humorless bunch who would just as soon have offed me as given me the time of day.
if you were to talk to me, you would notice that if given half a chance, i would perseverate over my hobby of digital signal processing. other than that, i would be pretty quiet as i'd be busy listening to you and taking in what you were saying to me. when i did talk you would notice unusual prosody of my speech, with a halting rhythm, alternating between monotonic [at various registers between bass and tenor] and exaggeratedly sing-song. you would notice my eyes alternating between shiftiness and total aversion, gazing meditatively around at objects in the room rather than at your face, but when i did look at your face you might find my eyes "drilling" into yours. you and i would find the conclusion of conversation to be an awkward thing, with a lingering good bye. if you were me, i suspect you would not want any further meetings.
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just my 2-cents' worth, adjusted for inflation

I interact with three aspies on a regular basis. We have superficial differences, but we think in the same manner. We have rewarding conversations with each other.

It's a learning experience. It's interesting. I was in a job training programme for adults with disabilities, with another aspie. We had very superficial differences in our opinions, about everything.

What is it like when 2 Aspies meet?

Simple;
Kinda like a chess game being played in absolute darkness, with only one rule.
That one rule being - The first person who makes a wrong move, will immediately be launched
into a high altitude aircraft while the rest of the world endures a quick and painless thermonuclear havoc. Meanwhile, till the aircraft runs out of fuel and any hopeful places to land, the person who made the wrong move has to watch all of this in excruciatingly slow motion Sensurround. (at least HAL is there to keep you company)

Really good porno music.

Boom chicka waa waa

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2be6jGwLoJ0[/youtube]

It can be literally everything from driving each other up the wall to being able to read each others body language like a book and predict their thinking fairly well. Or both at once.

It varies. I know quite a few other aspies. With some of them it gets awkward quite quickly because we have completely different interests and neither of us are particularly good at running a conversation, whereas some of them are the easiest people to talk to in the world often because we have a similar sense of humour.

The only one that I am really sure was Aspie eventually became unbearable for me.

He was really very toxic.

He had SEVERE eye contact problems; in fact his ENTIRE head would move away, following his eyes

He seemed to be permanently verbalizing his intrusive thoughts and seemed completely oblivious to my interests.

One of his diatribes lasted over an HOUR.

We were out cycling at the time and as soon as he headed home I headed to the nearest convenience store to buy a beer, which I 'downed in one'

VERY bright guy and we had some good conversations but now consigned to history, which was a GREAT relief to me.


ps: He probably thought the same way about me

It's either going to go really well and you'll get on like a house on fire or they'll make you want to hit your head against a brick wall.
Or both at the same time.
I have aspie friends and one HFA friend and trust me it's both They're always fun to be around and they're the greatest friends I've had but they don't come without their annoying habits and I'm probably the same to them.

I had Aspie boy in my High School class. We were deskmates. We talked rarely, but I often spoke about music. He didn't like the music, so I was angry. So we checked our Math/Chemistry homeworks and talked sth like Have you done this? How? Show me your solution! We both were interested in maps and Statistical Yearbook.
He was more shy and had more weak personality than me. So I was this dominant side, Alpha or how to name it. I used to use him to do some things, f.e. I planned a project and told him to bring the infos or make worse (less interesting) parts. I told him Do this work, send me and I'll correct it and convert to better version - because he was poor writer.
He was really naive and easy to cheat. Many people liked to have fun and laugh at him.

I had also other boy in my class. He wasn't Aspie, but had some traits. We made some explosives, smoke bombs (nothing dangerous), listened to Arch Enemy, talked about Pagan Myths, railway and How do you think, how fast this stone falls into water? And what about its power? Let's calculate!

good for the most part.. imy closest friend has AS might be the reason we get on so well. i have other friends with AS/HFA and again for the most part we get on well

I personally find it much easier to talk to other Aspies, which makes sense really, when you consider that Aspies don't have social problems, we just socialise in a different way to NTs.