Aspies, how are you doing financially? (Adults)

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Good for you Alana! Don't put up with that crap!

I'm horrible with money and it scares me.

Well I do have a full time job and I live with my parents. I think I'm getting better. But at work I'm doing a lot more things as of late. The problem is a few other people had to go and let the boss now I should get more in pay. Yeah I'm not good at doing those things.

I've only had my current job for a short while, but I voted that I'm doing reasonably well. I was very proud to learn that I'm earning more than either of my parents annually, although they're both self-employed and probably work only a fraction of the hours I do. I really enjoy my job for the most part, though, and am lucky enough to be getting paid to do something I care about.

Considering that the specialist who diagnosed me several years ago claimed it'd be very unlikely that I'd be able to support myself, I think I'm doing pretty well.

Your situation mirrors mine. My co-workers in every job have tried to fix me in hopes I would be normal making my time on that job a living hell. They could not figure out how someone who was 40 and still living with their parents. I never told them I was learning disabled or had aspergers they would have made fun of me even worst.

I've come up with so many elaborate stories to justify my middle-aged Hikkomori status that it's not even funny. It wasn't really a problem a few years ago since I actually lived on my own for 10 years in a small apartment. I was still being largely supported by family at the time, but few people had anyway of knowing that of course. I have not been officially diagnosed with an autistic spectrum disorder, though I do fit the general NVLD profile. Many people believe NVLD and Asperger's are the same disorder and suffice it to say I have mixed feelings about that. But whatever the case.....I just don't exhibit many of the stereotypical behaviors and mannerisms people often associate with autism. I probably seem quite "NT" to most people albeit fairly quirky and eccentric. I've also gone out of my way to seem more intelligent than I probably am and i've been mostly successful in that respect too. In short....i've lived behind a "facade of normalcy" for years and very few people know who I REALLY am. Perhaps I should feel guilty for living a lie, but I really don't. I've always looked upon my neuropsychological problems as something very personal and painful. I don't think they are anyone else's business and it's not as if my lies about myself have harmed anyone or were intended to do so. I mean seriously....considering the number of people who lie about something trivial like their penis/breast size, why should I feel guilty about projecting an image of NT-ness and compentency? Call me crazy....but I think a serious neuropsychological disorder is a tad more painful and personal than one's Vienna sausage/mosquito bite-sized private parts.


And i'm afraid society's new-found and much-heralded acceptance of diversity is largely a fable. Even many so-called tolerant white liberals still use the "N word" and truly believe that blacks are intellectually and/or morally "inferior". I should know since many of these self-proclaimed Obama-voting "liberals" are members of my immediate family. They are neither uneducated nor of low intelligence so they can't even use those things as an excuse. I've tried to change their opinions about all this, but to no avail. All this being said, alot of people aren't much kinder to the disabled. Especially when we're talking about the mentally disabled (or "differently-abled" if the term suits you). I've put up with enough bullying, abuse, ridicule, mockery, etc.....in my life. If I can get away with maintaining a facade of NT-ness and compentency then i'm darn sure gonna take advantage of it.

pleeeeesssee tell me the secret to your low cost of living.

I was marginally employed for most of my life...then my business partner put the business in my name so that thousands of dollars are on my social security number. I really don't know what to do about taxes. We have 2 businesses...one that has operated at a profit and one that has operated at a loss...lately thousands of dollars have passed through my social security number...I only recently started getting a personal wage that I had sole access to...We have an accountant and a lawyer...but I am not sure what they will be able to do to help me...I have gone for years without filing tax returns because I was not getting wages...and I did not know how to file them..now I have no idea what to do...I imagine that I will eventually wind up in jail...I never really learned how to properly handle taxes...

I don't pay rent, as I live with ma (though I split the bills of this place with her). I don't borrow money or use a credit card, so I don't pay things off; the 'net, electricity, housing insurance, and rates are my bills, and I can afford to pay them off weekly and eat with a little spare to save up for things. I wear relatively cheap clothes (the same stuff over and over again as I like that). I buy "no brand name" food, which cuts the cost of food in half. I cut down on my time going out (I go to town once a week), as that equates to fuel, and fuel is expensive.

O, I don't pay much for medication and the doctor's due to medical allowances, so I'd probably be in trouble there if I had to pay the full price.

I guess, being "single" and having no one depend on me is why I'm comfortable with the amount I earn. My ASD kinda keeps me this way, whether I want to be like this or not.

I live alone but I'm incapable of earning a living. I live on income support and DLA.

God that is so true, not meaning to overlook the other parts of your post but they are hardwired effing little nazis, it just kills me how many times I have experienced this, and women are worse than men, because they ask such invasive questions from the time you set foot on the job.

yep there is some weird NT requirement you aren't supposed to tell the truth about how much life sucks sometimes. I think it must suck really bad for a lot of people otherwise people wouldn't be so scared of talking about it. It's practically more taboo a topic than incest or something like that to talk about how unhappy you can be sometimes. I am very unhappy. I don't know if it will get better or not. My skin is getting ready to go "f*ck you" and have me looking like an elephant within the next decade, so even if things get better on the inside i am going to be scare-little-children ugly on the outside. I don't have a girlfriend and the uglier I get the less I feel like I can get one. I am going to school yet again to try to get a degree, if that fails I'll be screwed because I can't qualify for more financial aid. I know I should just do good works and then I will feel happier. I don't look forward to aging at all though. I was never terribly vain or into my appearance but I would love to have a bunch of plastic surgery right now.