I'm sick & tired of being me

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Sorry to vent to you guys. For the last month or two I have been talking to a lady on a dating site, exchanging e-mails. I think we were getting along fine, she responded to all of the e-mails (usually multiple paragraphs).

Anyways, at the beginning I told her I enjoyed movies, which I do. I have been seeing movies on a weekly or biweekly time frame for the last few months; however, before that I hadn't seen many in the movie theater. To make matters worse, I didn't have cable for the longest time (years, though I did have DVDs).

In my last e-mail to her I told her the truth, that I like movies but just hadn't seen many in the last 10 years (DVDs mostly). I think she got upset with me that I may have led her on. For most of those years, my emphasis was on Everquest, an online roleplaying game. So movies were on the backburner, as was my social life lol.

The only other thing that maybe she got upset with me was that I did look at her profile alot. The website allows her to see how many times I looked at it. It is probably part of my OCD, but I did like looking at her pictures (she was pretty) & reading the profile. But on average, I maybe looked at her profile at most three times a day.

My communication skills really do suck. Alot of times I am not straightforward 100%, I keep things back. I hate the fact that I do obsess (or is it anxiety?). Either way, I am tired of being a screw up. I want to be more normal. I can't even function well at any type of social event. People either think I am anti-social, very angry, creepy, or strange. Just sick of it.

Sorry for the rant. Thanks.

I'm new here but I've tried lots of dating sites out & your experiences are not uncommon even for people without AS. She probably misunderstood witch happens to me a lot. I wish I had some advice for you because I have similar problems but the only thing I can think of to tell you at the moment would be to try to explain some of your issues early on when your messaging people; you mite scare a lot off but some mite appreciate that you are being upfront & honest.

Call me backward and confused.

What is this "roleplaying" everyone talks about?



I didn't know those sites showed the #'s of times a person visits your profile.

The only one I'm really familiar with, it shows you the person one time... then its caput... fin...



I have little faith in those kind of sites. I've spent time on them -- and sure, there's some okay people on them. But most of them, they're just not real to begin with... you're worried about your oddities. Don't sweat it. Speaking as a female, I have acquainted slime de la slime online... and they earnestly believe they are "Mr. Perfect" aka "God's Gift to Woman."

What makes it so bad... so unreal, the people communicate through a keyboard, with their monitor... its not personal. The person on the other end, isn't really "real". You've got to actually meet the person, and if its doesn't click in real life... then its just not clicking. Try not to be disappointed about it too much.

If you're looking for somebody to just have internet chat with, then you came to the right place, because people here are accepting.

Welcome greetings to the WP community, Negolin.

What is this "roleplaying" everyone talks about?

It's a multiplayer online game similar to the old Dungeons & Dragons game. World of Warcraft is another one.

Thanks for your input.

That's where I'm lost. I heard of Dungeons and Dragons discussed back in the late 1970s/1980s, but was afraid of what it was. The only second hand report I got about it was a guy who got into it to a point of obsession, as if he were actually one of the character(???)... like it was borderlining Satanic or something.

Welcome to WrongPlanet, and welcome to my time warp.

Hello Negolin, welcome, enjoy your stay on the Wrong Planet!

To WrongPlanet!! !

rpg and mmo's are role playing games. first rpg meaning to create a character and while you're playing the 'real' you does not exist you are that character. whatever background or story the game or you decide to make for him/her. want to be evil? great want to be good? awesome there is no 1 way to play

mmo's are massively multiplayer online roleplaying games. same as a single player bit never ending with thousands of other people. I personally love these games because it is easier to understand people when everything is typed and any emotions expressed by someone elses character are very obvious. it makes up for some of my difficulties that I experience day to day.

I may be new, but it is hard. You even got as far as getting another E mail! I some times don't even get that or sometimes I get a buch of swear words back. Hey I really don't know what to say, but life goes on and things will get better.

what server(s) did/do have chars on.
I for EQ1 was mainly Luclin.
i'm mostly on EQ2 and it is the Oasis Server only for the reg. Freeport for either the test or the extended. and I forget what other server I have it for EQ2.

Welcome!

stay away from online dating, it's bad for your health.