Make a move - don't wait before it's too late ! ! !
Maybe you should try to settle with just a woman you can get along with. I wouldn't worry about whether or not you're attracted to her. If what you need is a woman to spend the rest of your life with and have kids with, focus on you and her getting along at least at the level of friends. As someone with AS, that's already quite hard to find.
My whole modus operandi is pre-emptive. My intentions are transparent by deliberation. My interest knows her options.
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Maybe you should try to settle with just a woman you can get along with. I wouldn't worry about whether or not you're attracted to her. If what you need is a woman to spend the rest of your life with and have kids with, focus on you and her getting along at least at the level of friends. As someone with AS, that's already quite hard to find.
Women sure seem to like me when I'm a cheerful idiot or unconcerned, rather than when I'm moody or downbeat.
If I can meet the woman online, then I'm okay. Possibly because online I don't have to worry about reading their non-verbal expressions. I met my past and current girlfriends that way. But I was lucky enough that my current girlfriend had made the first move. I remember that I was talking about her boobs (she's only 17 but has 36Ds) and then she just grabbed my hands and said "why dont you touch them" and she touched her boobs with my hands. I got to second base before first! lol
So I guess sometimes you get the girl who is willing to make the first move. Even though she found me on myspace, and I had chatted with her via text/talking for about a week before we met in person.
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