Does he sound sketchy to you?

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Last night, I went swimming in my complex swimming pool but there is this guy who goes to lives here and he is around my age but he scares me and does some odd behaviors that has the whole neighborhood in question about his behaviors. Anyway, he sat down next to me and we talked for maybe an hour and I was asking about him, and he said that he worked in a warehouse. I then asked him which company but he told me that he was working with a temp agency and had been placed on job site for about 8 months. Yet, he never told me which company that he worked for and that made me wonder if he is even working at all. He then went on to tell me that he was DC and then lived in Houston and that it was his favorite place but didn't talk about anything specific like what there was to do in Houston but moved to Atlanta a year and a half ago and just bought his condo. Finally, he said that he took a Grey hound to Chicago to visit since he liked to travel but again didn't mention anything specific but went onto tell me about his long road trip with all the different places there were to see on the road such as St. Louis.

Eventually, he asked me about dating and how many boyfriends I had in my life and I simply told him that I wasn't interested in dating at this point and that I was just looking for friends because I know that he has been sleeping with my neighbor.

In addition, he said that he was going to leave but kept trying to be manipulative by coming back to look at my bikini and that scared me.

Aspies tend to look vulnerable as they're often alone so he could be trying to exploit you thinking you're lonely and desperate.

Thanks for the advice..

Perhaps it may be a good idea to tell someone you know face to face (a friend) about your concerns. I know I'd probably told him to leave me alone if I was scared/disturbed by him or make sure the pool was busyish when going there so I'd be less disturbed because there would be a higher amount of people.

Stay the helllll away from hi. If you get a creepy feeling from him just go with your gut, especially if he creeps everyone else out too. There is this guy that I see everywhere and he scares the ish out of me. I DO NOT like this guy, don't know what it is. He seems like he gets along OK with everyone else but I've had bad feelings about people before in the past and they usually turned out to be justified.

Stay away. He probably senses something's a little different about you and thinks you might be easily manipulated.

He is very manipulative that's for sure. For instance, he said that he was going to leave the pool area and I was about to go swimming but came back in and stated at the front gate, "I am sorry but that is one fine swim suit there." He then wanted to get in and I asked him if he got a security code if he paid his dues. He said that he did and I said that I could not let him him and so he manipulated me. He also walked out but spied on me going swimming and just scared me until I left.

Finally, he is also sleeping with my neighbor next door and I dating her and so I am worried about her getting hurt and letting him control and manipulate her.

How should I handle reporting him to my home owner's association?

Report him to the people who own the pool.

Sounds like the worst sort of creep you can get. Ignore him from now on, do not even make conversation with him. Men like that think any sort of conversation means "potential girlfriend/someone to exploit" If he causes trouble report him to the police.

Talking to him for an hour would have led him to believe he's "in" and he doesn't want to let that go thats why he kept hanging around after he got annoyed and left because you said you didn't want to date.

You say it's your complex's pool? Do you live an apartment building with a pool?

Stay AWAAAAYYY from this predator.

Report him to the swimming pool owner. That is grossly inappropriate behaviour.