time to get practical how do i leave?

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time to get practical how do i leave. what i do what plans do i make, how long will exiting take

Do you drive? Do you know anyone that could allow you to move in with them? Do you think if you convinced your parents to take you to some body's house to move in do you think it'll work?

I'm not sure how it works where you are but most areas have income assistance for people on disability. Can you apply for disability?

yes i know someone
tell them? that might be a bad idea

would a sudden disapearance be bad or should i just tell them i found a place

kinda the point is no further contact or knowledge
should i say nothing or leave a vague explanation

what should i take stuff like that

I think you should take stuff that you really need. Like clothing, some food if you can find it. Make sure you have money. You're right maybe since your parents are as bad as you say they are then you don't need to tell them. Do you got a car? Can you drive? Can you go over to a friends house that lives close by and as them in secret to take you some where where you know that you can move in with another? I've thought about moving out of my parents house but I never did get anywhere. I thought moving out for me was just a hopeless idea. I think I can help you though. Make sure you go move in some where where you can be connected to the internet so that we can still help you. Pack the things you know you'll need. Like tooth brush, tooth paste, etc.

Take as much as you can carry or get help to transport as many items that belong to you that you can. You want a little bit of comfort when you set up on your own.

You have to think about your safety outside your parents home. We aspies can be taken advantage of because we cannot always fathom the dishonesty and sometimes evil of the NT world. Most NTs are not criminal, but there are weirdos out there and you have to be careful.

screwed up big time my brother knows somethings up.

their gonna want to see everything

How does he know that somethings up? Are you actually doing it now? Would it be better to leave the house at night? Or when you're left home while the rest of your family is out of the house?

caught me on the phone talking to a friend didnt get all of it

i can leave just never can come back

Would coming back be all that much of a good thing? Not now, of course, but ever, considering what they've put you through. I'm not sure how much your brother caught of your conversation, but if it's enough you may have to rule out staying with someone else in your family, lest he spill your plans to them. If you have your own cell phone, slip out when you can for future conversations out of earshot. Make them quick, and don't be afraid to say you can't talk now. Plan as secretly as you can. If you have a way to seclude yourself while you communicate, DO IT.

You should find an AS or autism support group, if your area has one. And then explain your differences to the people at the group. You may get some help in that manner.

I'm thinking about moving myself, but not for the same reasons. My parents aren't bad people, just too overwhelming at times. My parents know that I want to move, because I've bluntly mentioned it upon numerous occasions. I just find it hard to discuss the reasons why in any emotional context, because I don't like personal discussions. And my father isn't exactly wild about the idea of me living on my own, which just adds to the overwhelming feeling, so when I do it, I just may end up leaving with a note attached. But, I won't do it unless I have a decent job.

I'm not sure if you're able to sustain work, but AS and autism are considered disabilities. You could get help from organizations specailizing in supported employment, personal planning and so forth. Again, I don't know what exists around where you live.

- Ray M -