Friends and acquaintances
There are quite a few posts by others here saying they don't have any friends. I can't help but wish to know more. What kind of people would you consider to be a friend and likewise, an acquaintance?
I'm asking cos I think everyone's view of what they consider to be a friend or acquaintance can be very different.
Sometimes by simply understanding our inner definitions of what constitutes a friend and so on from different perspectives, we might gain new insight or better understanding into our past and present relationships with others; and hopefully some of us can reconsider whether any change is necessary in the way things are being perceived.
I shall start by sharing mine.
Friends to me are those who you can totally be yourself when you are with them - they know your flaws, fears and desires, but would never exploit or manipulate you in any way for cheap fun, ambition or ill-will.
Acquaintances are just people who I happen to know their faces or names. Colleagues or classmates can be acquaintances, for example.
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Acquaintances are just people who I happen to know their faces or names. Colleagues or classmates can be acquaintances, for example.
Good definitions.
I add one more to "friend:" someone you make a true connection with at a deep level--someone with whom you are completely at ease every time you are with them.
True friends are few and far between.
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I have to have that connection, or i just can't say someone is my friend.
My boyfriend is EXTREMELY social, and has a large number of real friends. He has been careful to cultivate a network of the most open, accepting people I've ever met. I am able to be myself in front of them in a very short period of time (well, short for me. 3 or 4 months, maybe?), because I know what type of people they are. But, even though I'm surprisingly comfortable around them, they aren't MY friends. They're his.
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