About 10 years ago, I was in the middle of suffering a massive depression; my self-esteem had virtually hit rock bottom and my self-confidence was nearly un-existent.
Of course everyone was always telling me where I needed to "improve"( *note: I actually didn't need to), and why no matter what I did was never good enough, but.......
of course I'd feel hopeless after no matter what I did, it wasn't enough. So, people would tell me my positive qualities.
Uh oh...wait a minute: those aren't my positive qualities! The traits in me they mentioned were either common everyday things, or totally non-existent.
One I can remember offhand was being told--in regards to finding a gal-- "you're charming".
Ok...I can tell you, my Dad can tell you, and even my girlfriend backed it up: "Russell, you have many, many positive traits; charming is not one of them."
Then they'd tell me stuff like "well, you're good with a computer!" First of all, I'm only about as good as the average user; I'm no expert on it. Sure, I'm smarter than a certain quantity of senior citizens with it, but in my mind that didn't mean dick; why should it?
What it came down to was....people kept trying to build me up after telling me where I was failing or whatnot....and they couldn't even properly do that!
It also may explain why my depression lasted so much longer than it otherwise may have.
Yes, I'm long out of it, and a lot of it I worked to get myself out of by reading a lot of inspirational stuff....and finding out I was Autistic helped more than you could imagine.
Anyone else go thru this?