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I just found out I have AS. A few days ago I was bored and was watching American Idol on youtube and Nick Zittmann was on and i was like my God he kinda reminds me of me. So I read through the comments and found that he could have asperager. So I look it up and wikipedia and watch some youtube video and finally I say "YES!! ! I know now why am I think differently from nuerotypical people". All my life I try to be normal and was frustated that despite all of my efforts, some people still think I am weird. For a time I hated myself because I feel that I didn't try hard enough to fit in that is why I am like this. I was always trying to improve myself socially. I went through periods of loneliness and have thought about ending it all. But I am here today and I have come to terms with having AS. In fact I believe people with AS can excell in life. some of the most brillant mind including Einstein have it. I feel i am that way too, if there is something that i am interested in I'll make sure I am good at it. And it's encouraging to see people with AS leading successful lives. They have friends, jobs, get married. I know that I can be weird sometimes but everyone is weird in his/her own way. People who gives us hard times are insecure and shallow themselves. They give us a hard time to see our reaction. I had "friends" like that and believed me they are not worth your time. We are better than that. Today none of my friends like that. All of them like me for who I am. I hope this could be a source of encouragement for others. I come to this forum to meet people who can share my pains and we can support each others through our struggles. We are not in this alone

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Hello, grandtheftrondo - and welcome to the Wrong Planet community.

Welcome to Wrong Planet. I'm glad you are here.

What is the secret of your success? You start by saying "a few days ago" and then in the course of your paragraph you describe a process of self discovery progressing to advocacy. Some of us take months or I guess even years to go through all the stages of processing a diagnosis. I'm not meaning to be rude, but I guess I need to ask...Are you for real?

Congratulations for coming this far in such a short time. What is your next step? I agree with you...there is a point of epiphany where everything clicks into place and my whole life made sense...but for me that is an on-going process. What do you plan on doing with your new found realization? Are you going to pursuit a formal diagnosis? Are you gainfully employed?

I'm hooked...I want to know more about you. Tell us more. Warm Regards, Scott.

Welcome to WP! Your attitude is very positive.

Hi...I watched Nick Zitzmann on youtube and the way he presented himself and the way people reacted to him did seem to suggest Asperger's.

I agree, you have an extremely positive attitude about all of this. We need that at WP.

Thanks y'all for your support. Yes I am for real ! !! ! As you all know this doesn't take a few days. It took a lifetime. It just a few days ago that I found the roots to my problem which is being born as aspie. I just knew I was different and I tried my best to fit in and be normal. I read books on how to deal with people. My friends told me it was common sense that comes naturally. Well it takes time for us to learn these things. I always put myself in social situations. The more I am with people, the better i am with them. Yes it was scary and it still is today. I can still be weird at times but you know what, I was able to separate true friends from ones that are not worth my time.

Nxt step is I want to be supportive for those with the same condition as me because I feel for y' all.

It's not a skill. It's just a way of thinking. Before when I was desperate for companionship, I hung out with people who only want to hang out with me because I was awkward and they want to tease me. I then made some good friends along the way and I stop hanging out with these people. True friends will accept you for who you are. They are the ones that are worth your time. They are the ones that will bring you the most joy. I chose to be around people but if I have a choice of hanging out with haters or being alone i chose to be alone.

Hi...I wanted to post again.

Thank you for your post, as it explains a lot. I wasn't meaning to be rude. I agree...you are "for real". I wasn't doubting, just asking for more information.

You are very fortunate to be in a position to advocate for other people. I am not yet there, although I find myself in situations where I try. Again...Warm Regards, Scott.

RE: Skill or not, there are still many people who never figure out how to think this way, either.

We need to experience life. With it comes maturity and self-acceptance. So for all us aspies out there I say open your mind, put yourself out there in the world. Sure, the world can be scary but it's like putting alcohol on your wounds. First its going to feel uncomfortable coming out of your comfort zone but then you will find out that its not so bad. Don't settle and live out your potential.

RE: You are very fortunate to be in a position to advocate for other people. I am not yet there, although I find myself in situations where I try. Again...Warm Regards, Scott.

Empathy doesn't come easy especially for us. God knows I tried having feelings for people. I have a gone way but there is still ways to go. I would say I have more empathy for aspie because i know what its like to be one. And Scott, you are advocating for us aspie-to come out here and welcome newcomers. It definitely help us aspie to know that we are not alone.

Welcome to WrongPlanet.

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