Anyone want to be more social like?

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Like NT's? I've made a similar topic so sorry to make a similar one. I was just reading the topic on staying home all the time and that would drive me INSANE! I like alot of others go out for groceries etc. and not much socializing but FOR GOD SAKE I want it!! !! !! ! Go to the movies! Someone TO ASK ME! To do stuff with!! !! The one friend I have is busy job/boyfriend/other friends. So in the social since I want to be more NT but in the College behavior stereotype NO THANKS! (Partying/wild behavior etc.) Another friend mention she had a teacher I'm going to have and she said that teacher doesn't like slackers. I said no problem I focus on my work/career. Sorry to repeat this AGAIN but while in the mall I saw a calendar with a football fan (arms raised WOO! pose) I said that's sad. My sister said why? I said well in college you should be focused on your career. She said "Well most people don't think like you." (This is before learning of AS mind you and my special interest in Psychology etc.) So does anyone WANT more friends to be MORE social?! !! ! Seriously! How am I going to meet people/friends/boyfriend in college hiding behind a textbook/laptop and keeping to myself??! !! !! !

I wish I'd made more of an effort to leave my comfort zone while I was in university. In my opinion, you should do enough work that you get the grade you want, but not so much that it's a detriment to everything else. University is probably the best time to meet people of the same age who might share your interests.

Like you I feel like I want to branch out somewhat, and maybe try more social things. I'm going to try to remedy it by moving to London and trying to find a book or film club to join, but it'd be a hell of a lot easier if I were still in education. Maybe I'll do a Masters next year and I can do it then?

Sometimes.

Not really been more social then I am currently am, just easier time with the communication and having idea how to get to know people my age outside the school system (Wish I never got depressive during the start of my superior schooling, finally had found people that shared my interest and were actually discussing with me (but then again I maybe would never had the diagnosis in such situation and thus not be working on point I find difficult with specialized educator help)

I do sometimes like right now I want to go to the store to buy shoes. I dont really want to go, I kind of have to really. I wish I had someone to go with, I think it would make me feel more at ease in the store to have another person to talk to. But, I have no friends so I have to go to the store alone and in reality, I probably wont even go.
I take Tae Kwon Do and have been for about 7 months. I know most of my classmates names, but when there is time before class starts, I never talk to anyone. I dont know how to start a conversation or how to contribute to one. I just wish I knew what to do to make friends so maybe someone would go to the store with me.

No, I don't want or desire having any sort of social life, have only 3 friends in my life, and don't feel the need or have the insecurity of needing
a large circle of friends and acquaintances that I hardly know, its not that I am antisocial, I just feel more self reliant then most people.

I do. I look at other people doing things and having relationships together and feel so isolated and alone. But I've been trying for years with a literal zero progress so I think it's something I will just never be able to understand or do.

I do, but it isn't easy. I get myself out there, do activities that involve other people, and assert myself, but that's not enough. There's a level of connection that I'm afraid I'll never achieve that makes the difference from friends and aquaintances.

I'd like to be more social, too. But I have social anxiety and avoid social situations (unless they have to do with school or work). Even online ones like facebook. I have problems understanding small talk and appropriate boundaries and protocols, and I have little idea what I look like, how I am coming across, and whether what I am doing or feeling is right or wrong. I'd like to get good at maintaining friendships, but what generally happens is that things are going well (I think) and then I become avoidant and I break off contact. I don't want to have a lot of friends, just a small group, but I am having difficulty. I probably never learned to be social because I did not have friends as a child.

I have three good friends, who accept me, as I am. What more could I ask for?

All. The. Time.

Almost.

yup.

Nope.