Roommate Problems

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Sorry I have not been able to post for a while. I've tried to post, but either my life gets in the way, or I get depressed trying find a topic.

Anyways after jumping through a series of hoops, which I have no desire to go into detail about here, to secure a place in on campus housing, I was quite surprised to find out who I had as roommates. To my immediate displeasure, I found out that I had been pegged with three freshmen. At first I gave them the benefit of the doubt, but having been here for two complete weeks, I have come to realize that my situation is as bad if not worse then I originally thought. Even by freshmen standards, my roommates are very immature. Their taste in music consists primarily of the worst kinds of country music. Namely the hyper patriotic and walking stereotypical. As if this was bad enough, they blare it over a stereo system at such a high volume that I can hear it in an adjoining room with a closed door and shooting muffs on my ears. I'd venture that the entire complex can hear it. Between beasting to sh***y music, they yell at each other as though they're auditioning for the sequel to Idiocracy. Adding to this, the all to often through homophobic slurs at each other.

Despite all this I have no idea how to solve this problem. Due to my past experiences in dealing with school officials, I'm reluctant to ask for help. When ever I ask for similar assistance in the past, the faculty I went to either did nothing, or did a token step that amounted to nothing. Put simply, I'm worried that if I ask for help from an RA, they will follow one of the previously mentioned outcomes. The end result will at best be nothing, and at worse it will give my roommates an excuse to make my life even more hellish than it already is. Even if they do something, I like this location. With the exception of a few blocks surrounding the college, the surrounding neighborhood is filled with stupid, neanderthal gang banners whose sole purpose in life is to mug people. The situation on campus is not much better. I have never tried to relocate, but I've heard that like having overnight guests, it is a real pain. I'm not sure what to do and any help would be appreciated.

hi, guess what, I just found this site, i went directly to your post as the first one and registered so i could reply - how cool is that??

I have an idea. Its gunna suck, but, in my experience (now 31 years old), I think I can offer a real life solution to you:

(did I mention its gunna suck?)

You're an Aspie I presume. Aspies are actors on a stage (ouch, Shakespeare quote). Act.

You will only survive in an NT world, wait, correction, you will Only flourish in an NT world if you can pretend to be one at certain times.

This time may be one of them.

Suggestion: (yes, i'll get to it, soon)

So we know the faculty wont do anything about it. relocating wont be an option, you're stuck with them.

try this

1-

Learn their music. Listen to the notes, listen to the instruments, listen to the tone of the singers voice... you will start to appreciate the ART for what it is and thus start to enjoy it, you can then enjoy the music With them, and they will never know you're listening to it on a completely different level than the words. Its amazing how many NT's dont listen to the music in the songs the like.
Enjoy the music.

2 -

Homophobic comments, clearly the two of them are a couple of brokeback guys who will discover one another at a drunken barn dance later in life, but until then, accept that they speak a certain way. you dont have to agree, or ignore, or tolerate, just accept that they're morons and smile on the inside knowing that later in life their comments are gunna get them in trouble.

personally i cant stand sharing space with any other humans, so I couldnt do what you're doing, but if I did, I'd have to adapt. Try to remember, its not the real you that people see when you act.

Oh, this will take a Lot of energy, be sure to find a quiet place somewhere to go a few times a week to read a book and recharge.

Dean.

I am about to hear from my school what room I get, but it has been amazingly delayed! I am still hoing I get a single occupancy room, as this is my first year and I doubt I am ready to deal with roomates just yet. But my school has accepted quite a few students and there is an issue going on in one of the halls. If I end up with somebody in my room, it is what it is. Hopefully I'll get a decent person that will not stay up until 4 AM and listen to loud music.

thAn. you've done it twice now so its clearly not a typo.

dont ask for advice if you dont want to take any.

Good luck with the rope, i assure you, you will spend the rest of your life yearning for it.

The only thing you can do about the music is ask/tell them to turn it down. I'm assuming you've already tried that. If you just tell them 'hey, I can hear this in the other room with headphones in my ears' they should be understanding enough to do it. You also can always say you have a headache or something and you need it turned down. If they simply won't do it (I don't know why someone wouldn't if you ask them the right way), you may have to go to the RA. Or maybe you could send some kind of anonymous complaint about noise. As for them being homophobes, you'll just have to ignore them.

You should try to do things outside of your room as much as possible. My roommate is perfectly nice and all, but she gets on my nerves sometimes so I stay out of our room a lot and it helps.

I think the first thing every freshman (or transfer) student does in college is seek out better roommates (you can change them if you both find better arrangements).

My first roommate and I butted heads. Too similar a personality. He was an okay person, but we clashed. He found another roommate, and I met someone two doors down I got along well with. When one moved out, another moved in. Things were much better after that.

A little update on my situation. Working with a psychologist who I've been visiting for about a year, I managed to arrange a meeting with the residents life coordinator for my complex in hopes of finding some resolution to this situation. Still, I don't see much chance for a positive resolution.

Unfortunately the Res Life Coordinator was unavailable today. Fortunately I was able to schedule an appointment on wednesday of this week. now its just a waiting game. Again

Well, I was not able to find an open apartment to move to in the complex I'm living in now. However the res life coordinator was able to point me in the direction of another complex that is reserved for upper class men. The down side, I won't be able to meet with the coordinator for that complex till monday of next week.

I met with the res life coordinator for the complex across campus. There is one opening that is compatible with my desires. Its on the second floor, but I'd rather haul my bike up a flight of stairs than continue living where I am now. All I have to do now is meet with the current inhabitants, see if they are agreeable, and make moving arrangements on tuesday morning. Still, the though of hauling all of my stuff across campus scares me.

Well, I'm back to square f*****g one. I've tried several times to contact the res life coordinator for the complex I'm thinking of moving to, and I always get a recorded message. On top of this, whenever they try to call me, I'm either in class, or I don't hear them. This is really getting on my f*****g nerves. If I have to spend another month with the a**hole freshmen, I will end up strangling them, then offing myself.

Hopefully this will be the last update. I've managed to speak with the reslife coordinator and a moving arrangement has been worked out. Unless things go south, I will move on sunday and I will be rid of those immature freshmen.