Do you invite people to your home?

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To me it's difficult. My home is my castle and I don't want people in my private silent place. People destroy my peace by themselves and by their smell. I always have to open the windows after their visit.
I know that inviting people is good for socialising, so rarely I do this, but it exhaust me. I invite one person, two are a crowd.
I hate when my Mum asks me a lot about this person, I'm not anybody's agent.

How about you?

I do. They just never want to come.

Not really.

I used to get very angry when my brother would invite strange people over to the house

Or people I knew were up to no good- I would smash plates on the wall and that would scare them off though.

Still happens sometimes, (Not the plate smashing) but I do get upset when strange people are in the house especially when they are very invasive and sit where I usually sit.

Should be pretty interesting moving....definately be a learning experience...hopefully for the better?


Also I hate having friends over, am afraid they are going to screw something up in the house.

I think part of these issues are from living in one place for too long.

No, but I'm married now, so yeah, they come over through this way, and that's O.K.

Most folks feel awkward around me,( from me questioning my wife about this, though I suspected this myself ); I find myself searching for things to say and there never seems to be a mutual rhythm ,harmony or natural cadence to it, e.g. when this is 'protracted.'

No, and I hate pop in visits. I feel invaded.

It is OK if they don't stay so long. My friend comes a lot and she is always welcome because she is close to me. But I don't like if they come if I haven't cleaned, that makes me feel less of a person and I create messes and health hazards fast!

I have never thrown a party, and have not invited any one over for years.

yes, i accidentally made my parents feel horribly unwelcome when they popped in one time. it did not go well.

visitors in general - i don't like them. i don't invite people over, but my husband and child do. they know i need to have certain boundaries though, i.e.:

-lots of warning
-specific guidelines for me in terms of how much i am expected to socialize
-reason why they are coming over
-arrival and departure times

this stuff is less important when my daughter has friends in her room or something, but if i am expected to do any visiting, i can't function without information and lead-time. and if something goes off-schedule or if there is a last-minute change, i fall apart.

Usually not very often. I feel like I have to be a good host but I would rather keep to myself. The same goes for being at other people's homes, I like my own space. Plus I have this wierd habit where I cannot drink milk at someone else's house. That's 'cause when I was younger I was friends with this girl who's family was REALLY messy and gross, and I had to drink from the bottom of the milk carton in some nasty glass It scarred me for life

actually had someone over tonight for couple of hours but this is someone I have known since elementary school...one of if not my best friend.

Sometimes I do, but I try to avoid that because my whole family is introverted and it just gets... awkward.

Myself, I invite and get invited as rarely as possible. My wife, however, has strong impulses to bring in and visit a limited set of relatives - though she pays for it a heavier price than I do. Of course, I have other phobic compulsions.

No, because I don't have that many friends. And the ones I do have are over the internet and live far away from me.

Once in a while. Usually, it is only close friends for brief visits. I tend to be very private, and I value my personal space alot, so I am conservative about social interactions in my living space.

No, never. I don't like being around people & I especially don't like them intruding on my home.