Men: How important is ______ to you?

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And here are my rankings of the importance of a girls qualities:

Being employed: 3
Quality of job: 6
Prospects for future advancement: 3
Having a car: 9
Quality of car: 4
Hair style: 8
Size of living accommodations: 1
Good neighborhood: 4
Nice furniture: 6
Organized, clean home: 8
Muscle tone: 4
Skin: 8
Smile: 7
Facial Hair (either way): 1
Clothing style: 8
Body shape: 9
Shared interests: 9
Sensitivity: 9
Intelligence: 9
Effort: 7
Sense of humor: 10
Confidence: 9
Courage: 9
Giving attention: 6
Sexual prowess: 6
Flirtation: 1
Romantic behavior: 3
Persistence: 4
Respectfulness: 10
Playfulness: 4
Spontaneity: 3
Forethought: 7
Assertiveness: 7
Aggressiveness: 2
Submissiveness: 6
Flattery: 3
Openness/Sharing: 6
Intensity: 6
Light-heartedness: 4
Carefulness: 4
Fearlessness: 9

Being employed: 5 (doesn't bother me, as long as she doesn't expect me to pay all the time)
Quality of job: 1 (what she chooses to do is her business)
Prospects for future advancement: 1 (again, what she chooses to do is her business)
Having a car: 6 (only because public transportation in America sucks)
Quality of car: 1 (it's just a vehicle)
Hair style: 6 (the only requirement is that it has to be chin length or more)
Size of living accommodations: 1 (her living arrangement is her business)
Good neighborhood: 7 (has to be a safe area and close enough to see her regularly)
Nice furniture: 3 (as long as it doesn't have splinters, I'm fine with it)
Organized, clean home: 2 (as long as fit meets the city's sanitation code, I'm fine with it)
Muscle tone: 4 (good enough shape to go out dancing is sufficient)
Skin: 6 (would be turned off by excessive acne, but I'm not picky)
Smile: 6 (would be turned off by missing teeth, but dental condition doesn't matter)
Facial Hair (either way): 9 (must have only eyebrows and maybe short sideburns)
Clothing style: 4 (has to be clean and presentable, fashion doesn't matter)
Body shape: 3 (I generally date whoever shows interest in me, so this doesn't really apply)
Shared interests: 5 (doesn't have to be all shared interest, just enough to maintain attraction)
Sensitivity: 8 (must be understanding of my quirks)
Intelligence: 8 (dated an unintelligent girl once, not fun at all, hence the 8 )
Effort: ? (not sure what this refers to)
Sense of humor: 2 (I take life very seriously, so this isn't relevant)
Confidence: 3 (I'm not a confident guy, so a very confident girl would turn me off)
Courage: 6 (I'm developing an interest in extreme sports, so if she can join me, all the better)
Giving attention: 7 (I enjoy feeling cared for)
Sexual prowess: 7 (I enjoy doing anything that's not kinky, so I expect reciprocation)
Flirtation: ? (not sure what this refers to)
Romantic behavior: 4 (I'm not a big fan of stereotypical romance, so meh)
Persistence: 3 (if she's too persistent, it'll make me worry how she'll treat me)
Respectfulness: 9 (doesn't even need an explanation)
Playfulness: 7 (I expect to feel happy around my girlfriend, so this will help a lot)
Spontaneity: 3 (I hate surprises, so spontaneity must be very limited)
Forethought: 8 (I'm very big on advance planning, so yeah, big time)
Assertiveness: 3 (if she's too assertive, it'll make me worry how she'll treat me)
Aggressiveness: 2 (in the bedroom only)
Submissiveness: 5 (just enough submissiveness is nice, too much is bad)
Flattery: 6 (I'm a very skeptical person, but thoughtful, sincerely flattery is great)
Openness/Sharing: 3 (I don't like to share too much about myself, even in a relationship)
Intensity: 5 (it has its limits, no talking about "us" on the second date)
Light-heartedness: 4 (as long as it doesn't involve pranks and what have you, it's fine)
Carefulness: 9 (nothing irks me more than careless or negligent people)
Fearlessness: 6 (I'm starting to like extreme sports, so if she can join me, all the better)

You guys need to sort your lists before you post them. It'll help identify what the key items are especially if you have quite a few "1"s. Here's my list.

10 Intelligence -- Gotta be smart, I want to be able to talk about everything.
10 Openness/Sharing -- 100% required. You have to be able to communicate and share.
8 Body shape -- Be decently in shape. We will be going outdoors.
8 Sensitivity -- Be sensitive. Communication requires the ability to listen and understand
5 Skin -- Skin color, yes I'm picky. But not about the quality - just as long as its all there.
5 Shared interests -- Something to share but you don't need to be my shadow.
5 Effort -- No sitting on your ass at home eating bon-bons.
5 Sense of humor -- Laugh at my jokes, great.
5 Giving attention -- No cold fish but if you need persona time/space, I respect that.
5 Sexual prowess -- Live, learn, practice.
5 Flirtation -- Live, learn, practice.
5 Romantic behavior -- Live, learn, practice.
5 Persistence -- I'm stubborn enough for me and 10 other people.
5 Respectfulness -- Don't be an embarassment when going out to a 4-5 star french restaurant.
5 Playfulness -- Have fun!
5 Spontaneity -- Have fun!
5 Assertiveness -- I like. Not required but I like.
5 Aggressiveness -- I like. Not required but I like.
5 Submissiveness -- Has its time and place. Just not all the time and not every place.
5 Intensity -- Motivation, towards something
5 Light-heartedness -- Life is tough.
5 Fearlessness -- I drive fast and do crazy dangerous things. Don't nag me woman!
3 Smile -- Smile/bad teeth can be fixed.
3 Confidence -- I have enough for the both of us
3 Courage -- I have enough for the both of us
3 Forethought -- Minor, I can plan 20 years ahead w/o a problem. But do forget the milk.
3 Flattery -- Part of basic communication/snarky/attitude.
3 Carefulness -- What isn't replaceable these days?
2 Facial Hair (either way) -- Minor if not petty.
1 Having a car -- I have a couple
1 Quality of car -- I have a couple
1 Hair style -- Pageboy to full flowing, doesn't matter as long as you have it.
1 Size of living accommodations -- My houses are nicer than yours, so don't worry.
1 Good neighborhood -- Pick your neighborhood, easy enough.
1 Nice furniture -- Who doesn't like furniture shopping? Easy enough to buy new furniture
1 Organized, clean home -- Well, I'm not a neat freak but can keep my own home.
1 Muscle tone -- Don't be obese. I like outdoor activities and you have to be able to keep up.
1 Clothing style -- Styles change. What is in today is out tomorrow
1 Being employed -- Not important at all. Money is there, just a question of how much you need.
1 Quality of job -- Just do something which makes you happy
1 Prospects for future advancement -- If you're in a job which makes you happy, it really doesn't matter.

Why would anyone care if she has a car or not

Being employed: 10
Quality of job: 5
Prospects for future advancement: 5
Having a car: 1
Quality of car: 1
Hair style: 5
Size of living accommodations: 4
Good neighborhood: 1
Nice furniture: 1
Organized, clean home: 5
Muscle tone: 1
Skin: 5
Smile: 2
Facial Hair (either way): 0
Clothing style: 4
Body shape: 7
Shared interests: 5
Sensitivity: 5
Intelligence: 8
Effort: 5
Sense of humor: 7
Confidence: 4
Courage: 3
Giving attention: 5
Sexual prowess: 4
Flirtation: 1
Romantic behavior: 2
Persistence: 1
Respectfulness: 10
Playfulness: 5
Spontaneity: 1
Forethought: 1
Assertiveness: 3
Aggressiveness: 1
Submissiveness: 1
Flattery: 1
Openness/Sharing: 9
Intensity: 10
Light-heartedness: 3
Carefulness: 2
Fearlessness: 2

Being employed: 6.75
Quality of job: 7.5
Prospects for future advancement: 7
Having a car: 0
Quality of car: 2
Hair style: 4
Size of living accommodations: 6
Good neighborhood: 8
Nice neighbors: 9
Nice furniture: 4
Organized, clean home: 4
Muscle tone: 2
Skin: 2
Smile: 2
Clothing style: 3
Body shape: 6.5
Shared interests: 10
Sensitivity: 10
Intelligence: 10
Sense of humor: 10
Courage: 10
Giving attention: 10
Sexual prowess: 10
Flirtation: 10
Romantic behavior: 10
Persistence: 10
Respectfulness: 10
Independence {needs and cares about her space}: 10
Playfulness: 10
Spontaneity: 8
Assertiveness: 10
Aggressiveness: 0
Submissiveness: 0
Flattery: 10
Openness/Sharing: 10
Light-heartedness: 10
Carefulness: 8
Fearlessness: 10