Socializing is stressing me out, more than I've anticipated.

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26 May 2006, 1:30 am

I've been going to my Club House for three out of the seven days out of the week. I've put this idea in my head, that it would be better to be out of the house, socializing than to be at home, in my room with my Dog, my Computer and my Buses. Man, was I ever wrong. With each passing Working Weekday that I've gone to the Club House, I've been feeling more stressed. I've gotten into the habit of horsing around with a Bloke who has a negative attitude towards anybody who's different from the Mainstream Population. And his Manners leave a lot to be desired. He belches, swears and yells out obscenities at people passing by. I'm going to get myself back on track, read up on Positive Thinking, and when I'm ready to spend more time at my Club House, I'll hang out with different people who are more positive. I need to undo three years of the mistake that I've made. Until I've completed the proccess, I'll only be going to the Club to go on all of the Saturday Outings, and the special outing to Victoria that's becomming more of a possibility.

What do I do in the Meantime?



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26 May 2006, 7:29 am

You are right, it is better for you to be out of the house than in your room on the computer.
However you must only go out to the extent that you are comfortable with, otherwise socialising will do more harm than good.



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26 May 2006, 3:20 pm

You're doing great by slowing it down. Its hard to go directly from total isolation to being a social butterfly. I don't think you can change your personality overnight. It is definitely better to get out of the house though. Perhaps do something where you don't need to socialize, but you are still getting out of the house. Take a walk, go for a swim, etc. Be around people, but not 'around' them. Eventually just being around people without having to talk to them may make it easier to talk to them later.