Why do I try to help anyone?

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TigerFire
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26 May 2006, 8:22 pm

I mean seriously am I helping anyone out here in this forum or am I making enemys? I
only know is that there is some people here that I think wish I never joinned. I'm not naming names but why did I try to help out or give some advice when no one appericates it. I keep giving help wither though making friends with other people or just giving advice. I'm really saddened that some one here I used to give a rip for some one I started caring for won't even accept my helpful advice. Look I can't stand to be ignored. Even when I ask for forgiveness I'm ignored. What am I nothing? Do I have some feeling of my own? How can some one be friends and then be your enemy? Am I anything good here?


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26 May 2006, 8:45 pm

Look at me. I shoot my mouth off all the time with lots and lots of good advice. It falls into the void. That's the nature of these forums.

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26 May 2006, 9:23 pm

Yeah and still no none to say thanks but who cares about that anyway


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26 May 2006, 9:29 pm

I don't mind you, Tiger.


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26 May 2006, 9:54 pm

Tiger, from everything I've read, you give really good advice. I've felt the same way before with many of the people I've known who have always come to me for advice. I used to get so frustrated when they would come get my advice, say something like "I really appreciate it. I think I'll do just that." and then they go and do the exact opposite of what I suggested, getting all upset and dramatic when it comes crashing down on them.

Just remember that often people have to make their own mistakes. When they make their mistake, they will remember what you told them. Then maybe they'll learn or maybe they won't. It's a good reflection on you that you care what happens to them, but not everyone takes advice strait out (some people are just hard headed).



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26 May 2006, 11:53 pm

I know what you mean Tiger. My nephew called me at 4:00 in the morning for advice on a problem he had, he knew I had to be at work at 6:30 that morning. So he says "I hope you don't mind me calling you this early in the morning on a work day," and I said..."No, as long as you take my advice." He didn't................people, go fig.



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27 May 2006, 12:59 am

You give wonderful advice. :)



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27 May 2006, 2:40 am

I question how valuable it is to give advice. I often think that things are kind of obvious, and that whoever I'm talking to probably has already thought of it.


I think that attitude is often more important then actions. It's become a cliche for me, but I suggest that people develop their own inner strength.

With that, I think everything else can fall into place.

Not something that's easy to develop though.



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27 May 2006, 11:30 am

Thanks everyone.


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01 Jun 2006, 5:11 am

If it helps..........I find myself in a very odd place right now, recent diag. ,I have always been a loaner, yet find myself intriged by the whole computer deal. Long story short, .........I get kind of embarrassed to make my own posts. tried a few. point being even though i am not the one your advise goes to directly.( i am picking up on ind. names as I go, ones who have a more positive, solution minded effort) I SUCK W/ WORDS ON THE WEB EVEN!! !! !! !! !! !

fRUSRATED THOUGH I MAY BE your positive advise helps me too. especially when i can not find the right words to post my own. I look for others w/ simaler subjects.
I will remember in the future to identify good advise directly. I just did not think about it in that way dont give up. For the first time in my life even w/feeling emarassed, I do not feel quite so alone. thank you for putting youself out there!! !! !! !! !!



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01 Jun 2006, 2:50 pm

TigerFire wrote:
...there is some people here that I think wish I never joinned. I'm not naming names but why did I try to help out or give some advice when no one appericates it....

Speaking to the people I have quarreled with here as someone who is possibly a little overfond of debate, and whose remarks at times grow a little too cutting, I will have it known that I hold the people I argue with in the highest regard. Though I may get distracted into arguing over minutiae, the fact that I am debating with you indicates that I consider you worth talking to... you are not my enemy, No! Far from it! I think you're actually top of the pops, in all likelihood! I maintain that wrongplanet.net's forums are one of the greatest gatherings of individuals on the entire interweb, and that the opinionated yet bright and helpful people you find everywhere you look here are our most cherished asset!

I certainly forget at times that helping other aspies is the main reason for these forums to exist in the first place. But I shouldn't, and neither should anyone else. So if I was arguing with you yesterday, don't be too surprised if I turn up agreeing with you elsewhere today. Take it as a reflection on all the great people posting here.

And please, outside the sanctity of the Haven, never make the mistake of thinking I took something said too seriously.

I'm not even sure I believe that's possible. :P

And that's not the type of guy I am anyway. :P :P


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