NT men get mad when I have a meltdown

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09 Oct 2010, 12:40 pm

Help When he gets mad he just says I am upset I do not want to talk then is not lovie and sweet to me and all. Then I ask how long and he says later. He is not concrete talking very broud and open ended how can I tell him?

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09 Oct 2010, 5:50 pm

perhaps write it down?
things are often easier to write down than speak.
i've always found anyway.

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09 Oct 2010, 6:55 pm

emlion wrote:

perhaps write it down?
things are often easier to write down than speak.
i've always found anyway.

You think most NT men want to read?

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11 Oct 2010, 5:09 pm

Pistonhead wrote:

emlion wrote:

perhaps write it down?
things are often easier to write down than speak.
i've always found anyway.

You think most NT men want to read?

Yes. My boyf loves to read notes I write him. It really helps us communicate.

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11 Oct 2010, 5:14 pm

Your boyfriend is more likely to be an exception than an accurate sample of the normal average guy. A normal average NT guy would probably rather read numbers and letters off football jerseys while getting wasted than read a note about their girlfriends feelings, unless her feelings are that she "needs some loving".

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11 Oct 2010, 5:15 pm

Pistonhead wrote:

:S You're confusing men with teenage boys.

Oh i write those sort of notes too; he definitely likes to read them.

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11 Oct 2010, 5:20 pm

No I'm really not. Men aren't these great knights in shining armor with the patience of a saint and a pure caring loving heart. The majority of NT men are slobs.

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11 Oct 2010, 5:23 pm

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No I'm really not. Men aren't these great knights in shining armor with the patience of a saint and a pure caring loving heart. The majority of NT men are slobs.

Yup. Slobs who'll do things to keep their girlfriends happy because they love them.
Sure they're not perfect, but they do their best.

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11 Oct 2010, 5:29 pm

You know, emlion, once you revealed that your boyfriend is an "older man" who asked you out only after the second time he saw you, I've never been more repulsed by him. Suddenly, your old question about him trying to punish you every time you were naughty made a lot more sense.

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11 Oct 2010, 5:34 pm

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You know, emlion, once you revealed that your boyfriend is an "older man" who asked you out only after the second time he saw you, I've never been more repulsed by him. Just sayin'.

Sounds like the older man is making decisions based on his sexual marketplace value and what he perceives as disparity in sexual marketplace value with the OP.

That is my initial observation.

I need to know more like his physical stats and the OP's physical stats to know more.

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11 Oct 2010, 5:42 pm

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Well no-one is asking you to date him.
He's not in the least repulsive.
He's rather lovely to me and everyone he knows.

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11 Oct 2010, 5:44 pm

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menintights wrote:

You know, emlion, once you revealed that your boyfriend is an "older man" who asked you out only after the second time he saw you, I've never been more repulsed by him. Just sayin'.

He's about 6ft + slender with an adorable little six pack.
i'm about 5"8 and skinny/slender. - saying that i'm not in the slightest attractive. He's far too good for me in every way.
I'm very lucky to have him.

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11 Oct 2010, 5:46 pm

He's rather lovely to the other ten women he's with. If he isn't well...I'm sure he will be as soon as you get a wrinkle on your face, start sagging or otherwise lose your aesthetic appeal.

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11 Oct 2010, 5:48 pm

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He's rather lovely to the other ten women he's with. If he isn't well...I'm sure he will be as soon as you get a wrinkle on your face, start sagging or otherwise lose your aesthetic appeal.

haha; i had no aesthetic appeal to begin with.

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11 Oct 2010, 5:50 pm

That could very well be why he likes you. You have no self worth and so you're vulnerable to being manipulated in a relationship via compliments.

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11 Oct 2010, 5:51 pm

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That could very well be why he likes you. You have no self worth and so you're vulnerable to being manipulated in a relationship via compliments.

probably, but i'm happy.
finally for the first time in my life.

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