Single People:
I've seen numerous times in here, people give people adice on wanting a relationship and many times I've also seen the recipient of the advice told to stop wanting a relationship just because others have it and work on themselves first. So, I was wondering how many people actually do just want a relationship as they feel society dictates they must and why others want it if not.
I personally would say all of the first three, in the order 2, 1, then 3, companionship well out in front really - I really want somebody to share lifes ups and downs with.
So, why do you guys want somebody?
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I simply feel there is no point to it whatsoever.
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Other, looking for intimacy - not just sex. Such a strong urge drives me.
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Mutual emotional support and activities partner.
Sex is cool, but really?! There are many things far more important.
I don't want a family.
I don't give a crap what the society or my family or friends expect of me. My life is my own and I will not sacrifice an inch to someone else's expectations.
Companionship and intimacy foremost. Sex and possibility of a family follow those.
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I sort of meant both - I'll change the poll. Thanks for helping me catch that early!
Edit: Can't do that actually. (This is my first poll)
Glad to be of service - intamacy and sex are two things, yes.
You can scrap this thread and make a new one if the results really are important for you.
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"It all start with Hoborg, a being who had to create, because... he had to. He make the world full of beauty and wonder. This world, the Neverhood, a world where he could live forever and ever more!"
I sort of meant both - I'll change the poll. Thanks for helping me catch that early!
Edit: Can't do that actually. (This is my first poll)
Glad to be of service - intamacy and sex are two things, yes.
You can scrap this thread and make a new one if the results really are important for you.
I know they're different but I was trying to some things up in as few words possible (I'm a little stoned too). The only important part is showing that very few people want a relationship due to peer pressure so I'll leave this one going!
I sort of meant both - I'll change the poll. Thanks for helping me catch that early!
Edit: Can't do that actually. (This is my first poll)
Glad to be of service - intamacy and sex are two things, yes.
You can scrap this thread and make a new one if the results really are important for you.
I know they're different but I was trying to some things up in as few words possible (I'm a little stoned too). The only important part is showing that very few people want a relationship due to peer pressure so I'll leave this one going!
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"It all start with Hoborg, a being who had to create, because... he had to. He make the world full of beauty and wonder. This world, the Neverhood, a world where he could live forever and ever more!"
Sex is cool, but really?! There are many things far more important.
I don't want a family.
I don't give a crap what the society or my family or friends expect of me. My life is my own and I will not sacrifice an inch to someone else's expectations.
I'm not single, but I could just kiss you for this post
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Call me cynical, but I would take the results with a pinch of salt - I'm not necessarily saying people will lie, just that in my experience they are often not that honest about such motivations with themselves.
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"Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live" (Oscar Wilde)
This is my take on it. By the way, I voted "2 of 3 of these things".
Firstly, I don't ever base my desires or decisions on peer pressure or what society and the media claim is right. I listen to all sides of the arguement and then make up my own mind accordingly. That said, my reasons to want a relationship are genuine and personally motivated.
Mainly, I rate companionship and closeness abuve everything else. I just want someone for which we know each other as though we're just two parts of one person. I want a woman who I can do everything in life with, share memories with, and have in my life. I want someone who is often (though not perpetuaslly) around, who I can talk to most every day.
As for sex, as nice as it is, it is certainly not the best thing about relationships. Anyone who wants a relationship for purely sex will be very disappointed when they've tried it. I just don't see how anyone could enjoy sex without appreciating how good it is just to know that someone else cares about them so much to want to be so close. Then again, that's what differentiates me from the rapist mentality. I just wouldn't physically be able to get off to forced or unconcensual sex.
This I agree with. Unless you actually know why you want to have a partner, then you are probably not ready for one. Also, if you don't have any hobbies or things in your life that you are able to enjoy without a woman (or man) with you, chances are you will fail in a relationship by way of being too clingy or not interesting enough.
Another theme I often come across is this: Think about what the other person wants and can get out of being with you. If you want something but have nothing to offer in return, you will get nothing. If, on the other hand, you truly believe you do have something to offer and you still can't find a woman (which is my situation atm), then it's down to other factors such as lack of opportunities or certain hurdles you (as well as me) are struggling on.
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Closeness illusionary, intimacy lost
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When the fog clears and the clouds disappear
We will see with clarity, this is what remains here
You are all that I have now, you are all that I miss
Since when did we need more to life than this?
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Call me cynical, but I would take the results with a pinch of salt - I'm not necessarily saying people will lie, just that in my experience they are often not that honest about such motivations with themselves.
People may not be 100% truthfull but people could poll anonymously, without commenting. I just really don't know where these people get the idea that us singles desperate for a relationship want it due to others having it!?!
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Ah, I see what you mean - a few here complain a lot about society (and "the way romance is described by the media" ) putting pressure on them to have a relationship, but they are not so representative, just LOUD
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You have written my thoughts exactally, just much better than I could tonight! I do find the other factors important too though!
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