How did you learn Social Skills?

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watch movies, watch other people who were succesfull at it. Oh and one important thing,alot of stuff only makes you look bad if you allow it to make you look bad. You have to do everything with 100% confidence, do it like its the right thing. If something is embarassing to you, it will most of the time only be awkward if your awkward about it. If you act like its completly normal then others will think it is in more cases.

One thing that i only recently learned is that you should try to respond to alot of questions in a non jokingly way. Especially when you talk to girls. They ask you something, say something absurd back. Dont take people too seriously. Dont do this all the time, but if you mix it up well, this makes a huge difference. If someone asks what you did last weekend, respond with something like 'I killed a bunch of homeless people'. if you did nothing at all that weekend you wont look like some no life loser responding with 'not much' every time. people will find your answer amusing and wont ask any further if its a question you dont like answering. In general people love people who dont take things too seriously. large part of social connection is a sense of humor imo. Find out what people find funny, and make the occasional joke, people will respect you alot more for this. Nobody likes someone completly devoid of humor.

Also i had the policy to never blame others. If someone bullies you, it is because you stood out one way or the other. Outsiders get picked on to get them to act and look like the rest of the group. So if you wanna fit in, stop blaming and start figuring out. But I kinda took it too far, ofcourse sometimes you just gotta get rid of certain people and just accept that they wont accept you. and actually blame them.

lol i have exactly the same thing. If I havent seen a complex social interaction played out before , i have alot of problems dealing with it. As for the flirting thing, check out roissy's blog (cant post link, but google Roissy) . This site helped me a TON. seriously check it out.

about the humor thing, check out the show QI, found it pretty helpfull in discovering some patterns to making jokes. (you can find the same patterns in alot of jokes actually). And learn how to present them well. The show is kinda casual with some v funny people (and quite interesting facts!!).

I've learned social skills by being around people from an early age.

Acting classes helped me.

Actually, I've been trying to improve upon my social skills...

I was strapped into a chair, my eye-lids clamped open and given drugs while watching romantic comedies.

Exactly. To teach SS, some SS-methods have to be used. Sometimes.

I had teachers telling me they knew I had a problem with eye contact but for god sakes do not stare at a woman's chest when you are talking to them. They always told me to at least have my nose pointed at the person I am talking to nose. They said you can look at their forehead or mouth if their eyes are too much a problem for me.

My parents were from an area where people were overly polite so they drummed in manners to me from the time I was first learning to talk. My parents also forced me to play with other children and I learned a lot from peers who were always correcting me when I was acting weird around them. TV shows also served as a good starting point for learning to imitate correct behavior. So I would have to say it was a comination of parents, teachers, peers, and TV that helped me fake being normal.

I have BEAUTIFUL manners. It's the rest of the social skills I'm lacking LOL.

In my case, like everybody, with a lot of practice and experiences, and especially with the help of my parents, who have been always strict but excellent teachers and friends.

With the time I have improved many social difficulties and actually I even can pass unnoticed as a "shy" and "cold" person and not like someone who has an Autism related disorder (I´m diagnosed with AS).

I still have lacks in some social habilities but compared to my situation when I was a little kid, I have advanced a lot.