Hi,
I am not an aspie . . .I think I'm close to NT , , ,but anyway.... there is someone new in my life that is ( my GFs son)
From 'my point of view'
. . .the bad vibes you get form the other person when pushed into (or you do on your own) a social situation are because AS is not 'obvious' to any one.
. . the first impression I formed when I met this person : "the bluntness almost borders on being rude"
. .I later learned of the person being an aspie . . .
. . .I took the time to learn , , ,and attempt to understand
. . . .I can better communicate with that person . . .we are slowly becomming 'friends'
If you, as an aspie, or me as not, approached a person with no eyes, we'd probably undertand they do not have a concept of 'seeing'. We both would understand a person with one leg having a problem with walking . . .
Without some 'quickly visible' indicator, it is almost impossible to 'know ahead of time' that I'm about to deal/communicate with an aspie, or a codependent, (me) or a bipolar, or . . .an alcholoic (was me too) for all that matters if the meeting is during a period of sobriety. Can't tell the good guy from a bad guy without a score card.
Speaking of 'absent an indicator' . . .I was on the downhill . . .ending it . . .yes, self termination . . .
. .nobody, not wife (now ex), children, bosses, 'friends' recognized or reached out . . .
. . .as a codep, I was very adept at hiding my emotions
Thank you for the opportuinty to learn , understand . . .