I want to change my internal dialog to something positive.

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I know there's a scientific term for it but I'll try to explain. Basically if you think positive about yourself in the long term you'll also get more positive. Doing the opposite works the same way.
Basically I want to try this, I want to rehearse stuff in my head so eventually I'll believe it.
The main problem here is, I don't really know what to say. I want to try one thing at a time but I don't know what to start with. It needs to be something specific as well. Anybody have any ideas?

I have also heard this about 'luck.' Assume you are a lucky person. Bad luck is transitory and you can step to the side. Good luck you can roll with.

'Sometimes, another person is in a mood to meet a new person. Sometimes, he or she isn't. Either way is perfectly okay.'

'I do not need to do anything special. I have a lot to offer just as I am.'

'I am open to appreciating another person. And that is a perfectly fine beginning.'

How about a simple one to start with. 'I am capable of achieving what I set my mind to.'

That'll set you up for more success with whatever else you decide to put your mind to. Like changing your internal dialogue. I love feedback loops.

For technical terms, are you perhaps thinking of the law of attraction?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Law_of_Attraction

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Ideas: The Little Engine That Could story (I think I can). General themes: Happiness, health, love, money, prosperity, success (Source: R). Values: God, family, and the Green Bay Packers. - Vince Lombardi. Day by day, in every way, I am getting better and better. - E. Coue. Some persons create annual goals like: I will complete one more year of education with a B average or better. In the field of selling, I will sell 5% more products this year than last year.

We learn subconsciously to expect similar things that we already have experienced. Thats why you should start with noticing small successful experiences. (Im unsure if you can force it by changing your thoughts out of own will, but I dont exclude that its possible).

Anything that just comes completely convenient, I attach importance to.
(Also the moments where I have no big new problem, Ive learned to notice and enjoy).

In addition to what's been stated here, whenever you do catch yourself having a negative thought towards yourself, "correct yourself" and tell yourself the positive version of what you just thought.

If that made sense. :S

I recall at times I used to be duelling with myself, countering each negative blow from my mind's habitual negativity with one of positivity.

Last edited by Moog on 27 Dec 2010, 3:24 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Avoid absolutes in your thinking - "I never", "I'm always", "everyone"

a gentle dialogue, in response to 'I can't do that.'

'Well, maybe I can.'

'And if it takes some time, maybe that will add some texture to it.'

Be a good coach to yourself. Think Dick Vermeil, and not so much Vince Lombardi.

I would suggest you try to change it to something realistic rather than positive. Don't tell yourself positive lies; tell yourself the truth. If you keep telling yourself you're a failure, for example, don't replace it with, "I'm a success," replace it with things like, "I have this and this skill, I have this opportunity; I've done this particular thing successfully." Facts. Not rosy promises.

I once had weeks of therapy that included cognative behavior therapy which is all abt changing your tought process and challenging negative thought patterns that result in negative behaviors or feelings of anxiety. I found it very helpful. Google CBT for the area where you live. The facilitator of my group even had training in CBT for aspies. Also, in my group there was no cross talking or typical group therapy type of activity, so it was ok for me being aspie. I have had other group therapy experiences that caused more harm than good.

If you google "CBT" please make sure safesearch is ON.
Trust me.

I know what you mean, it has to do with phrasing and magnifing positive parts of the situation.
Although I agree with Callista on keeping it realistic (also seeing the opposits and other aspects of the situation which might be less pleasant), only for your emotional state positive thinking helps alot (thinking in possibilities, keeping an open mind, etc.).

Mantra's like suggested in the above posts are good ones, repeating it sixteen times gets it from your shortterm memory to your longterm memory in no-time (has something to do with NLP, but I haven't found a link yet to back it up, so trust me on this one ).

Cheerfully,
Wallourdes

Agreed.

ooooohhhh you should look up Dune's Harkonen's mentat (I believe Dune 2000, the remake of Dune 2). or was it Dune Emperior.

Where one of the houses has a blond mentat, who recites this mantra without stuttering and with conviction.