Best friend confessed his attraction for me. Ick. Help?

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Yeah ToadofSteel.

Your words remind me of a humorous poster (though truthful) which says:

Winners never quit...
Quitters never win...
But those who never win and never quit are idiots.

It's how I feel.

If you think that way, sure. You are what you think you are.

Never give up.
Never give in!

this is heartbreaking and true.

There is no such thing as a "male best friend" unless they are Queer

There are only Betas who secretly love you while you are chasing the Alphas and hoping that you will appreciate them sooner or later.

For an extreme example think of "24 years of living next door to Alice".

My best friend is a girl. I'm mostly heterosexual. She considers me the same.

However much i'd love to argue this.
But I guess he was only pretending so he could eventually have sex with me.
However - from MY side, it was purely platonic.

Coming from you, that means a lot. I've had a female best friend. I generally don't prefer female friends for this reason, but men and women can be friends. Only in an oversexed society (such as the United States) would people say such ridiculous things.

everything wombat says seems to deeply offend people, makes me wonder why no one has complained or that he hasnt got the clue

Well, I guess he's entitled to his opinion.
It just differs from most other peoples here.

QFT

My two closest and oldest friends are men. They also became good friends with my husband. Since I've known one for 8 years and the other for more than 15 I know pretty well they don't carry the torch for me, there's no sexual tension between us and they never acted in an inappropriate way. Both have strong personalities and are not push-overs. The myth than men and women can't be friends is just that - a myth.

On the other hand, some people (and I've met both men and women who do that) do see others only as sexual beings and are incapable to accept they might also have worthy thoughts, opinions and aspirations unrelated to their instinctual side. Those indeed won't be able to have such friendships.

I think i'm done with friends of either gender.
People in general are just not worth it.
Although i'm sure once i'm in a better mood, i'll change my mind.

Today though; people suck. D:

Oh, cheer up, thing'll get better. They always do.

I know. They always do.
Just having a moment.
Sleep will help.

I'd be your buddy Em. You seem like a funny and likeable lady. You live miles away in bonnie scotland though.

I went to an AS support group tonight. It was a disaster because i was really anxious and panicky but their might be a similar group somewhere near you where you can meet other neurodiverse individuals.

I repeat what I said. There is no such thing as a "best friend" of the opposite sex.

There have been a number of TV shows where the boy has been chasing the "popular girls" or the "cheerleaders" while totally ignoring the "girl next door" who really loves him.

He sees her as his "pal" or "buddy" or "friend" or "sister" when she is eating her heart out hoping that he will notice that she has loved him for years.