"The Happy Marriage is the 'Me' Marriage"

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Stupid title. Interesting article?

http://www.nytimes.com/2011/01/02/weeki ... rpope.html

"The things that make a marriage last have more to do with communication skills, mental health, social support, stress — those are the things that allow it to last or not."

Yep! Us Aspies are doomed to loneliness.

The biggest question this raised in my mind was... Who's paying for these studies?

No matter how many aspects of love they identify and credit for sustainable marriage, as long as even one partner regards the marriage is something that may eventually fade in importance or benefit, in other words, as long as people think they can get out of it anytime the spark seems to be gone, there will be arbitrary divorces. Obviously I don't mean divorces for a danged good reason. There's too many of those, but it's too many because it's a shame that there are so many scumbags on earth smacking other people around or doing other revolting things that are reasonable grounds for divorce.

But yeah, the scientists are wasting money that could be used for so many things and people that actually need help... it's sickening.

Did we read the same article?

Here's a part I found interesting

The best definition of marriage I have ever seen is the "Do you love me" scene from Fiddler on the roof.

Here it is. Enjoy.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h_y9F5St ... E&index=31

That sounds wonderful. But after discovering and becoming addicted to facebook + wrong planet, am i married to these social networks? I still feel lonely.

So that's what keep a neurotypical marriage together. But here's the question: What keeps an autistic marriage together?

It's pretty obvious to me that autistics want different things than neurotypicals in most aspects of life. What about marriage?

This is aside from the fact that the study is flawed. I could very well be measuring an effect and attributing it as a cause.

I didn't even notice mention of a study

I'm very aware that the results of 'studies' are often to be taken with huge mounds of sodium chloride.

I'm really only interested in the idea.

I don't know if Aspies are different to NTs in this respect.

I can only speak for me when I say that I very much want a partner who can be an active party in my growth process, and I get a lot out of helping other people grow, too.