Should I post my REAL height/weight on a dating site?

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Bethie
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23 Jan 2011, 3:12 pm

Over a hundred people have viewed my Aspie Affection profile in two weeks,
but I haven't gotten a single wink or message.

I can't help but feel men don't want to talk to me when they see how much I weigh.

Should I change it to "tell you later" or whatever the non-descript option is?
Wouldn't that just tell them I'm fat anyway, only not honest about it?

I wish dating sites didn't ask at all, or they had an option to remove that question from your profile.

What do you guys think?


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23 Jan 2011, 3:15 pm

the truth always outs.



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23 Jan 2011, 3:20 pm

Which would hurt you more--not getting any responses to your honest profile, or getting responses to a false one THEN getting blatantly rejected when you send them your picture or meet up with them in person?



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23 Jan 2011, 3:39 pm

I'm inclined toward the truth as well,
but in all honesty,
I'd very likely not end up meeting with them,
either due to distance or other factors about me someone might not be able to stand.

I'd never lie about my weight, which is what I now realize my thread title implied.
Just wondering if I should put it out there or keep it secret.

Ugh. Even if I just became friends with someone, or did the online/LD dating thing,
I'd always wonder if they would have contacted me had they known how fat I am.

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23 Jan 2011, 4:42 pm

I would be truthful about how much you weigh and how tall you are.

A decent man will care more for what is in a woman's mind/brain than how many kilos are in her mass (weight = mass x g).

The problem I see is that many people have an uglyness of the mind, I view ugly minds as a nasty problem which is close to unfixable and is more unattractive in a person than a host of physical disfigurements.


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23 Jan 2011, 5:18 pm

Tell the truth. If you are uncomfortable with your weight you should still be honest but you can give a general range (ex. 120-150 lbs.) rather than your specific weight.


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23 Jan 2011, 5:33 pm

I just put "overweight" on my dating profile. I figure that if a man can't accept a few extra pounds, he's not worth my time. D:



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23 Jan 2011, 7:04 pm

Most people trim/add a couple.


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23 Jan 2011, 7:40 pm

Whats worse, Weeding people out who who don't like you at the start, or weeding them out after you've wasted time getting to know them before telling them?

Also there are better dating sites than aspie affection. You may want to try some other ones :)



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23 Jan 2011, 8:00 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
Whats worse, Weeding people out who who don't like you at the start, or weeding them out after you've wasted time getting to know them before telling them?



Quoted For Truth.

Thanks, errbody.

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23 Jan 2011, 11:07 pm

Erisad wrote:
I just put "overweight" on my dating profile. I figure that if a man can't accept a few extra pounds, he's not worth my time. D:


He's not worth YOUR time? So what are you bringing to the table that makes you worth HIS time?

It cuts both ways.



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23 Jan 2011, 11:11 pm

^ As far as I can see, she brings, beauty, humour, love and fun to the table.

And the fact is that beauty comes in many different forms shapes and sizes, and even in people like me who are overweight.


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23 Jan 2011, 11:16 pm

Wombat wrote:
Erisad wrote:
I just put "overweight" on my dating profile. I figure that if a man can't accept a few extra pounds, he's not worth my time. D:


He's not worth YOUR time? So what are you bringing to the table that makes you worth HIS time?

It cuts both ways.


Dude, chill out. My bf's overweight too. I accept him for who he is, regardless of his weight and if a man wouldn't be able to do the same for me then it's not worth it. :/

Thanks zen_mistress. :)



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23 Jan 2011, 11:17 pm

You're welcome! :)


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23 Jan 2011, 11:23 pm

Wombat does have a good point...but still it's your personal opinion and it doesn't hurt anyone (maybe it hurts a few people's chances, poor babies)

Bethie, the answer is YES (preferably) or leave it out (not recommended). I would be flipping pissed if I talked to someone for a week with their profile saying 130lbs, drive 50 miles to go on a date and she either doesn't fit in my car or tries to give me a better education on the human skeletal system.


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