is there such a thing as being broken hearted?

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StevieC
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15 Feb 2011, 3:11 am

i assumed this was only a metaphor or something.

i have just broken up out my first ever relationship, and my heart hurts, almost like im short of breath.


and when people say "he doesn't deserve you" etc, surely they mean that the other way around but just don't want to say it?



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15 Feb 2011, 3:22 am

no its all a crock. ot sucks for awhile and then youll move on. constantly thinking about it is what tears people up just move on



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15 Feb 2011, 4:08 am

When your really upset through a sense of loss, there's physical pain in the center of your chest, I think this is what they are referring to.



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15 Feb 2011, 5:11 am

yeah, i think i know this physical pain, and when really sad, there is also some physical pain near my stomach.
But how is this caused, the physical pain?

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15 Feb 2011, 5:46 am

When you suffer an emotional loss your nervous system can be all out of whack for a while which can cause some varying degree of physical pain, fatigue and lethargy. It takes a few weeks (depending on the degree of the loss) for your nervous system to adjust and then you will slowly begin to feel better physically.



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15 Feb 2011, 7:48 am

Broken Heart Syndrome < LINK.



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15 Feb 2011, 8:32 am

There is. I have been experiencing it for over six months.

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15 Feb 2011, 8:52 am

I've been broken hearted for years.


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15 Feb 2011, 9:02 am

There is :( and six years later it still makes me sad :(



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15 Feb 2011, 9:33 am

It does exist, it can be a physical pain where your heart is. It can also be a splitting headache or tummy upset. I feel the reason for this is because the pain exceeds that which can be processed emotionally.

It does get better, time does heal it somewhat. I hope you feel better soon.


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15 Feb 2011, 10:25 am

StevieC wrote:
i assumed this was only a metaphor or something.

i have just broken up out my first ever relationship, and my heart hurts, almost like im short of breath.


and when people say "he doesn't deserve you" etc, surely they mean that the other way around but just don't want to say it?


Being "broken hearted" can literally give you a heart attack and kill you. See here.



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15 Feb 2011, 10:30 am

Although the heart is not literally broken into pieces, there is a real physical pain with broken-heartedness. Everyone experiences it, I can guarantee :).



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15 Feb 2011, 11:07 am

Yes.
To be 'broken hearted' is a little understood phrase for the physical pain (and sometimes physiological damage) endured by an individual who has been significantly emotionally perturbed. The resultant stress derived from such significant (and usually prolonged) perturbation can cause significant physiological stress, specifically to the endocrine and cardiac systems.

It is my experience that prolonged and intense emotional anxiety can, quite literally, break or cause physical damage to the heart muscle itself. In my own case, I developed an anomalous of sinus tachycardia with a right bundle branch block, which cleared when the stressors were alleviated. At a particular instant, restarting the heart and a replacement were considered. I am fit and there are no genetic associations or underlying problems. My full (rather than partial) self-recovery is not understood but it is anticipated to be linked with emotinal psychology.



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15 Feb 2011, 1:35 pm

well all i can say is.....thats why so many people love country


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15 Feb 2011, 2:15 pm

You need to be careful because being heartbroken can sometimes trigger mental problems like major depression. It screwed up my emotions, logic & what ever so-called sanity I had. I kept focusing on the heartbreak instead of working true things & moving on


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15 Feb 2011, 6:42 pm

nick007 wrote:
You need to be careful because being heartbroken can sometimes trigger mental problems like major depression. It screwed up my emotions, logic & what ever so-called sanity I had. I kept focusing on the heartbreak instead of working true things & moving on


Yup. I am *trying* very hard to fight depression right now. Sucks.

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