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20 Feb 2011, 2:50 pm

This is going to sounds really weird, but I feel like I need to say something. Lately, I have been thinking about what would happen if I had a heart attack. A few weeks ago, my girlfriend broke up with me. She wasn't very nice about it, and she did it on Facebook. If you're wondering why we broke up, I'll give you the Cliff notes version. Basically, she was too obsessed with school, and thought that was more important. After we broke up, she deleted me on Facebook, and now I'm pretty sure she hates me. So, I started to wonder what would happen if I died, and how she would react. I don't know how she'd feel, but I think she might feel a little responsible. I'm not thinking about killing myself, I was just thinking what would happen if I had a heart attack or something. Then I started to think about heart attacks, and not just how she'd react, but how other people would as well. I also got to thinking about what if I had one, and I was alone, then how would I call 911? I am guessing I would have to somehow grab the phone and do it myself, or I think about yelling for help. But more often, I think about if it would happen when a group of people were around. Also, I will clutch my chest for no reason at times. Now, I am not old at all. I am 19 years old, and I know my chances of having a heart attack are not that great, but it's still possible. I am in good health. I have a well-balanced diet, and I get a good amount of exercise in (I used to not get much, but that's changed as of recently). I know this sounds odd, but I just felt like voicing it here.



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20 Feb 2011, 3:07 pm

It's not nice of her to break up on Facebook of all places. Why do you think she hates you if all you two did was break up? Was there a big fight first?



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20 Feb 2011, 3:09 pm

Disclaimer: This is not medical advice; please go see your doctor and ask for a cardiac workup.

First, I think it would take some kind of really massive coronary attack to make it impossible for you to reach a phone, and even then it might not really make much difference if you did. But at your age and unless you have had some kind of serious heart condition you brought along with you from the womb, I think a massive coronary would be quite unusual. I had a very serious heart attack at age 49, and I was able to walk into the house, talk with my wife and ask her to call an ambulance and then sit and wait on it ... and it was ultimately about an hour before the ER staff eventually decided I was even having one. So, and especially since stress and anxiety can make a big difference here, just try to relax a bit and call your doctor. If your doctor hears you report and believes you might need to be checked out, you will likely have a few tests including nothing more invasive than an IV for an otherwise painless, dye-contrast examination of the vessels and such related to your heart ... and at that point you will know for certain whether or not any of your present concerns are/were actually valid.


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20 Feb 2011, 3:25 pm

ooOoOoOAnaOoOoOoo wrote:
It's not nice of her to break up on Facebook of all places. Why do you think she hates you if all you two did was break up? Was there a big fight first?


Well, the day after we broke up, one of my friends posted as his status that I was back on the market, which he tagged me in. He was just trying to make me feel better, and he did, but I was still very hurt. One of my girlfriend's friends must have seen it, so she put as her status "If you're a guy, and another guy has to announce that you're back on the market, chances are that you're a loser and nobody wants to date you :)" My ex "liked" her status. Now to be fair, this is the only real reason I have to back this up, but I am pretty sure she doesn't like me.



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20 Feb 2011, 3:32 pm

It's too bad you can't get in touch with her or someone who knows her and try to work out a truce with her agreeing to cease the petty remarks on the internet. Any chance of that being possible?



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20 Feb 2011, 3:39 pm

ooOoOoOAnaOoOoOoo wrote:
It's too bad you can't get in touch with her or someone who knows her and try to work out a truce with her agreeing to cease the petty remarks on the internet. Any chance of that being possible?


Well, nobody has said anything about me since then, but I can't see her Facebook page, because she removed me, and I don't know if she's saying anything about me on there. I have a lot of her friends on Facebook still, and they're not saying anything about me there, and when I see them elsewhere (which rarely happens), none of them have come forward and called me out on how evil I am. I don't really want them to get involved, because I don't want this to get ugly.



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20 Feb 2011, 7:27 pm

So...in a nutshell, she doesn't want anything to do with you, nor you with her? So what's the problem? Yes, it could definitely have been handled better, but it's done. Get into a new routine and you'll be surprised at how quickly everyone drops in and moves onto the next drama. Turn the page...



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20 Feb 2011, 8:20 pm

These thoughts are normal when going through a break up. But this is a very selfish thought. Why would she feel responsible if you had a heart attack? My ex once told me that after he broke up with a girl that was depressed she attempted suicide. He felt bad but he knew that wasn't his fault. I know you want her back and it can feel like she hates you if she doesn't talk to you. The grieving process is at both ends. She is hurting too. She is trying to get over you the best she can. It will take months up to a year to get through this process. She still cares about you but needs time away. You will eventually become friends again. When my ex broke up with me I went through the same thoughts and feelings but we are still friends. We didn't talk to each other for a long time but then we started speaking again.

Also, when going through break ups some people can say or do things they don't mean or later regret. She 'liked' a status? Well, maybe her friend did that to make her feel better. My mum's friend is still annoyingly saying things about her ex. My mum has since moved on.

The grieving process sucks but it's a part of growing up.


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