Self-Pity (you should probably ignore this)

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I'm so sick of being alone. I feel I can offer alot in a relationship and am sick of having no opportunities to spark one. I want a child but don't want one too late in life but need to be in a relationship for a while before that can happen so I need someone. Everywhere I look I see happy couples and it just reminds me of what I don't have. I'm so lonely it's ridiculous!

didn't you recently pimp up your profile on some dating site?
maybe you'll get some hits soon from that?

I did but not much so far. I'm also crap at messages on there so it's unlikely to do me much good.

keep your chin up! ^.^

I feel your pain, man. I'm in the same boat (except for the kids part).

Oh, stop. You're a catch. The women around you are idiots. Someday, someone very lucky will realize this and snatch you up.

I wish that were true abaisse but I'm starting to realize I have very little hope in this department.

If you will marry or have kids you won't be able to "undo" it; but if you are single you can always marry later. To make it worse, if you will "have a girlfriend" and it goes well for a year, then she is very likely to be pushing YOU to marry. So just imagine what would happen if you will THEN realize you don't really want it; what would you do to try to get out of that relatioship you are stuck on? You should cherish the freedom that you have. Do you have any other ambition in life besides dating? School, work, and so forth? Use your freedom to develop these.

I need a change in career which will require study (not decided what yet) and I'll have to do this whilst working in a job that can be crap at times. I need to have something good in my life whilst those are happening. I'm sick of having nobody to share with, to comfort and be comforted by.

If it's any consolation I can relate to how you are feeling. I am trying to embark on a collegiate journey and I am already aware that it will KILL my current relationship thus putting me back at square one regarding marriage and kids. Kind of a bummer. But cheer up! As they say "There are plenty of fish in the sea."

People always say that but it's not much comfort when your problem is catching the 'fish' in the first place.

you need some big bait.

Yep, I definitely need something to draw them in as I obviously can't do it being me alone but what?

Come to the USA. Stand on the street talking. You're a cute guy. Ladies love the British accent. You'll have 10 marriage proposals before the end of the week.

LOL. So true.
Do it!

I've thought about moving abroad and that could be a bonus but if I struggle to make new friends here it'd be even worse alone in a new country.